FitChick Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 You really have to be psychic sometimes. What sounds innocent could be the opposite, what sounds funny could be deadly serious. Examples: "Please be tolerant, laid back, accepting. I'm no angel, but probably nor are you, so compromise is something I respect, and something missing from my last relationship." Does this guy behave badly a lot and expect forgiveness? He mentioned going to the pub with his mates, liking football and rugby. He has photos of himself at the pub with a glass in hand. Could it be that when he behaves badly women are supposed to think, "Boys will be boys"? Another guy says: "Like you, I am equally comfortable in wellies or a ball gown." He lists under his hobbies "sewing, knitting, doing housework" along with other normal things. He is a retired RAF officer and looks very rugged. Does he have a zany sense of humor or is he a transvestite? You never know these days!
Fondue Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Anytime a woman writes something along the lines of, “If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” I read it as: "I'm a self absorbed, entitled, and a huge bitch. I'm not apologizing for it." SKIP. 3
Brown-Eyez Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 From reading posts here on LS I discovered an interesting perspective: if a guy writes in his profile that he doesn't want drama more than likely he's a jerk and has probably caused the drama he is now wanting to avoid. I met someone like that and yeah he did create drama, hot & cold behavior, silent treatments, etc. (after specifically saying he wanted no part of any..go figure) I know its only one person, but still 1
salparadise Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 I used to have synchronized swimming as one of my interests. But without the assistance of voice inflection women sometimes didn't realize it was a joke. Anyone who dwells on negativity for more than a tenth of a second in a profile has poor etiquette at a minimum, and more than likely has issues. It's really not hard to flip a sentence and say it in a positive way. Talking about ex's or previous dating experiences is reason enough to next them. I absolutely believe you can learn more by reading between the lines than by reading the actual lines. I think you should be careful about profiles that are a little too smooth as well because that just means the person can write and knows what not to say. Authenticity with style and bit of humor is the thing to look for, imho.
emva07 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 From reading posts here on LS I discovered an interesting perspective: if a guy writes in his profile that he doesn't want drama more than likely he's a jerk and has probably caused the drama he is now wanting to avoid. I met someone like that and yeah he did create drama, hot & cold behavior, silent treatments, etc. (after specifically saying he wanted no part of any..go figure) I know its only one person, but still I've learned that the people who go around saying how much they hate drama are the ones that cause it the most. 1
sabre80 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Anytime a woman writes something along the lines of, “If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” I read it as: "I'm a self absorbed, entitled, and a huge bitch. I'm not apologizing for it." SKIP. I wish I could like this post more than just once. I hated this quote and half of all the female profiles have this. The same women will complain that they aren't taken seriously or that they are never appreciated for their mind. Well when you quote such a beacon of intellectual prowess how could one NOT take you seriously.
Author FitChick Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 You really have to be psychic sometimes. What sounds innocent could be the opposite, what sounds funny could be deadly serious. "Please be tolerant, laid back, accepting. I'm no angel, but probably nor are you, so compromise is something I respect, and something missing from my last relationship." I asked for clarification and he replied: "No angel.... impatient, over active, insensitive, opinionated, over-spontaneous, laddish, beer drinker, sport mad. How am I selling myself? Do you like what you hear? Thought so!" It seems to me that he is saying "I will treat you badly and you have to accept it because you can't say I didn't warn you." Sort of like a man who tells a woman he is married but gets her to sleep with him. When she complains later he says, "But you knew I was married!" I'll pass, thank you.
Mascara Posted September 27, 2013 Posted September 27, 2013 Yeah, but then you're the b!tch for not being accepting / compromising / willing to take the good with the bad. There are a certain amount of men / women who have this arrogant, aggressive "hey that's just me" attitude. And then they complain nobody wants to date them. 1
Author FitChick Posted September 27, 2013 Author Posted September 27, 2013 Just heard from another man who only had an executive head shot on his profile. He works from home, so I'm assuming it's an old photo. He quit smoking five years ago and gained weight but supposedly was going to the gym and losing the weight. I said, "Why no full length photos on your profile? If you are dieting and exercising you should show off the results!" "Ahh But it is slowly slowly coming off And I dont have any more pics Sorry I am not obese I promise" Should I offer to give him diet and exercise tips? Recommend a trainer? I do like being helpful. Tell him to get back in touch when he's reached his goal? Everyone has a different opinion on what qualifies as "obese." It's always everyone else except them!
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