beelibra Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 We've been dating for six months, official for one and a half but we have a long term view on our relationship and told eachother we love one another a couple of weeks ago. So there's no uncertainty of where were at in our relationship. I know he needs a new wallet, so I bought him a really nice one from Tumi for about $100. And I know he really wants the new Grand Theft Auto Video game, so I wanted to get him that and a cute card and put it in a little bag for him for this weekend. Were long distance but see eachother every couple of weeks. I don't want to set the bar high for him thinking he has to spend a pretty penny on my bday next month, especially because its my 21st. Overboard or just right? Adds up to around $160. He spoils me and treats me constantly when I'm with him, so I don't want to come off cheap or careless. Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 I think it depends on how much money you make/have. I probably don't spend that much on ANYONE's birthday, but that's just me. I don't think I usually spend more than $100, and that's on my mom. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 It really depends on how much you can spare without breaking the bank. My GF spent well over $500 on my birthday, with dinner and entertainment. At that time we were only together 2.5 months. So it really depends... Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 It depends how much you make. I was with my girl for about 4 months when her first bday came around and I was upwards of $500 by the end of the night. I just had a big sale and a lot of cash on hand, so I didn't mind and didn't expect her to spend that on me cause she didn't make much dough. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 GTA V is too violent for someone celebrating their first birthday. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
emva07 Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 I'd say go with either the wallet or the game, not both....and the card. You don't want to come off as it being wayyyy more serious than it is. I get that you don't want to seem cheap so the wallet is a good idea. But he really wants the game (guys are nuts about this game) so the value of it will go far more than its financial value. I mean how much is the game? It can't be that cheap right? You said 60? With the game, be prepared to be ignored for a few months because I hear guys have dropped everything to play that game Link to post Share on other sites
bentleychic Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 My BF is not big on bdays and does not like it when I buy him much of anything. So I baked him his favorite pie from scratch. That was his bday present. He was thrilled. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Leegh Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 I think your instinct is correct, and that the video game is very appropriate. It is not too much (overboard) but not too small a gift. I think it is just perfect! Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 My gf's bday was a little over a week ago. I gave her roses and a card! That was all that was required. Neither of us are into bdays, so small, thoughtful gestures are more than enough! Don't feel obligated to buy both. One or the other will do... Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Always awkward when you are dating someone and their bday comes before yours. I prefer for them to set the bar I see you are only 20, back when I was 20 I was into big gifts and impressing my man with gifts. Now, not so much....I think just the video game or just the wallet is more appropriate. Don't get in the habit of spending loads of money on gifts for each other, it gets harder and harder to top the last gift which is what you'll both end up trying to do. I think it's best to keep gifts small and thoughtful. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Overboard or just right? Wallet was a nice touch. You exceeded my lifetime quota of female gifts, including my exW. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Um. A couple of people are dating one year olds! Diapers? A rattle? LOL. I too think just the game is a good gift. Someone on another thread said their gf got a Brazilian wax for his gift....: Link to post Share on other sites
crederer Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 Lets be perfectly honest here, if you give him a BJ he'll be happier than a pig in ****..... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 It depends how much money they make, and also how long you have been together and how serious you are. Phantom and his girl fall in love faster than you and your guy did, and acted accordingly; with expensive gifts for birthdays very early on. It sounds like you and your b/f are taking things slower, probably due to the distance apart, and, in turn, perhaps you shouldn't go overboard with the spending. I would rather come off as under interested than over interested. And also - he will not be underwhelmed by the wallet, in my opinion. However, if you get both the wallet AND game, he may be a bit overwhelmed. Underwhelmed means you can make it up to him; cuddles, attention, extra care given to him... A 100 dollar is great. Stick with that. Please don't get him ANOTHER gift.... Wait until you are very serious for that to happen... Or until HE gives YOU a huge gift. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Guitarisgood Posted September 24, 2013 Share Posted September 24, 2013 ^ haha but actually +1 Guys aren't materialistic in all honesty. I'd choose showing up in some nice lingerie and make it dinner and a night he will remember beats any birthday gift I've every recieved. Make memories not materialistic waste 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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