joekablo Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 So last night I went partying, and the sweet side in me just came up again, so I decided to call and sweet talk my girlfriend who went drinking as well. Thing is, she pressed my call away (I can tell because it only dialed twice) and hung up on me. So I went to whatsapp and checked if she was online. She was, so I texted her. She didn't answer, so I called again, this time her cell was off! I got pissed, told my friend and he (the emotional wreck himself) told me we should go check it out. I refused, be he was the driver that night, and he just drove there. My girlfriend and her friends were hanging outside the cafe on the parking lot, and my friend drove like an idiot and scared them. As soon as I got out, I wasn't pissed anymore, but couldn't be my happy self either. I acted really cold, talked to her for like 10 seconds and went inside of the cafe. This was the first time this particular group of friends had seen me, and I was behaving very contradictionally to what my girlfriend had been telling them all night. Now ashamed of what had happened, I want to recover my girlfriend's image to her friends, and my own of course. How do I do this!? And how bad is it, the damage of my being cold to my girlfriend in front of her friends and leaving a bad impression? Could it at least have had SOME sort of charm on them? Like being a badass or something lol. I already made things right with my girl.I was thinking joining their table next time she goes drinking with them, being them two bottles of whine and making them all laugh? How´s that?
Misfortune Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 You can never get another first impression. You and your wingman rolled up on them like proooooofessional badAsses. I would think you're cray, a stalker and controlling. Otoh: it does suck that she couldn't shoot you a "out with friends, ttyl" text. She brushed you off like an annoying housefly. I would just be on my best behavior and let it change their perspective of me over time. Don't try to be something you're not. If your BadAssery isn't genuine, you should let it die.
Misfortune Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 She didn't need to, he already knew where she was and what she was doing. OP, your behaviour is real ****ty and controlling. Get a grip. On the other hand, yeah, you've ruined your first impression with these friends. But girls tell their friends all of the bad things about you through the course of your relationship anyway so who cares. Forgot he already knew. Yea, he was out of line showing up to her outing like that. I'd guess he got some bravery from his friend peer pressuring him. People tend to forget that their bf/gf are individuals and sometimes need their own time away from them. They don't have to check in or be checked on all the time. Not getting a reply doesn't mean you're being done wrong. I agree with the thing about females telling their friends all your negative traits. The friends know more about you than you would ever know about them. No way. OP gave her friends undeniable proof. 1
Menina Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Ohhh man, my ex pulled the exact same thing TWO times on me. If you go out with your friends and you're my boyfriend, I trust that you'll "behave yourself", that's why I never called my ex when he went out with his friends. And I expect the same thing back, if we're always together MY time with my friends is MY time with friends so I hated it when my ex kept calling me. Then he appeared out of nowhere like a ****ing stalker scaring me and my friends. However, it doesn't mean that it is over for you guys and at least you recognize that it was an overreaction. Just go to her and tell her why you did it and ask for forgiveness. Next time don't worry what your gf is doing, trust her, if someone is going to cheat on you no amount of calling/stalking will stop them, all you have is trust and communication. 1
Misfortune Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 JorKablo- Did you leave after talking to her or did you invite yourself to her outing?
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