davidvilla Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hi guys, I posted here a week or two ago. My ex has GIGS and we were about 3 weeks NC and 1 month since BU. I think I was sent my first breadcrumbs via email a few days ago saying "I hope you're well. xo". I waited a few days and replied with "I'm doing well I've had an busy few weeks. I hope you're well too". At that point I figured that this would be the end of the conversation (which is what I wanted it to be). A couple days later she sent another email saying "I hope by busy you mean everything is good. I am doing ok as well". I really don't know what was going through her head by sending that...It just seem like an empty communication. I don't plan on responding and I don't need her knowing whats going on with me right now. Any advice is appreciated. I'm assuming that more of these breadcrumbs will follow...has anyone had experience receiving more breadcrumbs after ignoring a few? Been following your site for a few weeks now and I’ve been impressed with the advice that has been passed along, so I figured I would try to get an opinion on my situation. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago after a 1.5 year relationship. This was both of ours first “real” relationships. We've been together without any issues for about a year and a half. She’s in her final year of grad school, and a bit of a perfectionist with some anxiety about graduating in a few months. Long story short, she broke up with me 3 weeks ago saying that she wanted to be by herself and that she doesn’t need a committed relationship at this point in her life because she wants to focus on school work and her career (it’s uncertain). She also says that she has been too dependent on me for a lot of things (social life, comfort) and that she needs to establish herself. At first I fought the breakup but accepted it and initiated NC. I’m fairly certain there’s not anyone else in the picture and she told me when we broke up that she’s not interested in dating anyone or even having sex at this point - she just wants to be alone to focus on herself. These types of anxiety freak outs are common from her. A few days after the break she texted me asking “if we can keep in touch” I responded saying that I really just need some time at this point. It’s been 3 weeks since the breakup (and 2.5 since she last texted me) and I haven’t hear anything from her. Obviously, the end goal is to have her back (if I think it's the right thing to do) and I’ve been working on myself these past few weeks, in the event that a reconciliation is possible. My question is, did I push any chance of her reaching out to me to possibly reconcile by saying I needed some time. Should I be the one to break the NC after about 1 month or should I let her come to me. Any advice is appreciated…
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