CJJ1212 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Me and my ex girlfriend are considering getting back together. We are broken up for a year. My biggest problem is not accepting that she slept with someone but how she did it. I know this girl for about 5 years and when she told me she slept with someone with out being committed to them it freaked me out because that something she would never do or at least i thought she wouldn't. I know i can't hold her sleeping with someone against her because we were not together but what I'm having the most trouble with is questioning her character after she told me this. She constantly tells me that it was because she was heartbroken and that why she slept with someone but to me that isn't validation to go against you normal character.
Leegh Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Being heartbroken can make people do crazy things. It sounds as though she does indeed have good character, as you do. People are not perfect though, as I have made mistakes, and most people have. I would worry much more if she said she was in love with the guy she slept with. I realize it's hard to not think about it, but hopefully in time you can accept it. In addition, if she had had any alcohol that can make people do things they don't ordinarily do. My advice is forgive and forget.
Misfortune Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 If it was after you two were broken up and it's been a year plus separation already, I would try again. I agree with Leegh. You're putting too much pressure on her as if she's not allowed to mess up. I would just think of it as dating someone new, even though you know that person isn't a virgin, you don't mind being a relationship with them. Don't try again with her until you can be ok with her being with someone else after/before you.
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