paperboy48 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I went on a first date last Friday with a gitrl a met on OLD. We both had a good time. We both showed enthusiasm towards going out again, even agreed on a nice restaraunt to go to. There was a hug and even a peck on the lips. We did not text each other after the date or even the next day (Saturday). I like this girl, we had fun but, I don't want to rush into this yet, I feel I need to text her daily because if I'm not I feel like I'm avoiding her or somehing. Maybe thats just me, its normal to go days without communication with someone you are not dating exclusively, right? The other thing is, I can't meet her again until two weeks from our second date because i have my kids next weekend and a lot during the week. Only way I could do it is if we go out on a Monday night. Is two weeks too much time in between dates?
deathandtaxes Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 You didn't call her afterwards?!? Where is your man-card, sir! I think two weeks might be a long time and would let the flames of passion die down too low or you both might just lose interest. Two weeks is a long time for a second date. Why not call her up right meow? Do you have any babysitters you can hit up? Friends or family that would want to watch your kids? 1
Author paperboy48 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 You didn't call her afterwards?!? Where is your man-card, sir! Why do I have to call her afterwards? I bought her a drink and didn't get a thank you at the time of the date or a text after thanking me for the drink (not a cheap one either).
todreaminblue Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Why do I have to call her afterwards? I bought her a drink and didn't get a thank you at the time of the date or a text after thanking me for the drink (not a cheap one either). ohhh...keeping score?.......where did the fun begin that you had.....deb 3
deathandtaxes Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Why do I have to call her afterwards? I bought her a drink and didn't get a thank you at the time of the date or a text after thanking me for the drink (not a cheap one either). You call to express your feelings on how the date went. You should be offering a drink or drinks with no expectations of anything in return. It's called being nice. She could be picking up on some signals you're sending out that you're expecting too much. Calm down brother. Pick up the phone. Say hello. Either it's gonna happen or it won.t 1
carhill Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Now what? Call her (not text) today with your plan for enjoying that restaurant you agreed upon, mentioning that you'll arrange child care once you and she have settled on a day/time. No need for extended conversation, rather light and flirty and focused on the next date. 2
mammasita Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Hey PB.....I had a first date Friday too.....and it was FANTASTIC. Anyway, I always personally send a "I had a great time, thank you" text after a good date (again I am a texter) and let the guy take the lead from there. We've been corresponding as we had been prior to our first date ever since and it's looking like plans are already being made for this coming Friday (he has custody of his baby so has to plan in advance for a sitter). Don't mean to hijack your thread, just wanted to offer a bit of contrast/comparison for you. I think you need to contact her if you haven't already.
Author paperboy48 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 (edited) You call to express your feelings on how the date went. You should be offering a drink or drinks with no expectations of anything in return. I was brought up having manners. If anyone buys me a drink or anything for that matter, I always say "thank you". It could be a new friend I just met, it could be a friend I've had for 25 years. See that's being nice and having good manners: Anyway, I always personally send a "I had a great time, thank you" text after a good date Edited September 24, 2013 by paperboy48
Author paperboy48 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Hey PB.....I had a first date Friday too.....and it was FANTASTIC. Anyway, I always personally send a "I had a great time, thank you" text after a good date (again I am a texter) and let the guy take the lead from there. We've been corresponding as we had been prior to our first date ever since and it's looking like plans are already being made for this coming Friday (he has custody of his baby so has to plan in advance for a sitter). Don't mean to hijack your thread, just wanted to offer a bit of contrast/comparison for you. I think you need to contact her if you haven't already. Congratulations...good for you
Author paperboy48 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Oh geez. Already keeping score. While I agree that not saying thank you is horrifically impolite, it may have simply been an oversight on her part and she doesn't even realize it. Some people get a bit nervous at first meets and it could have just been a simple mistake on her part. But if you're already keeping score and resenting the fact that you paid $8 or $10 for an exotic drink at your first meet, maybe you should discuss going Dutch on your dinner date - but do it BEFORE you get to the restaurant. There's nothing quite as romantic as asking a woman out on a dinner date and then telling her what she owes when the bill comes. Yuck. I have no issue paying for a date. I am a huge believer in the guy paying for the lady for the first few dates. I am taking her to out to a nice dinner tomorrow night. If she doesn't say "thank you" for dinner, she's done!
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