Why you should NOT go back to an ex.

[TheFriend]

Hey guys, it has been a long long while since I have posted on this site, but I needed to share this with all of those who may be going through what I did many months ago, and why you should not take back or even give the other person who left you an opportunity.

 

If you want the back ground of my story just search my name and a list of threads will pop up.

 

Anyways....here we go.

 

 

Got an email from an ex who left me out of the blue about 8months ago telling me" hey i just wanted to thank you for always treating me good, I realized that you were a great boyfriend and that it helped me realize the guy I dated after you couldn't do some of those things. If I could mix the two of you it would have been perfect." So that should have been my first red flag...... But no I proceeded to ask her to hang out which she agreed to.

 

When we first meet up I didn't feel a damn thing... It was strange. We had a few drinks. Walked around and suddenly started holding hands. We went back to my house where we eventually started kissing. Big mistake... That broke the emotion barrier for me and I instantly started feeling something again..

 

Anyways weeks go by we hang out a few times a week and go on dates, and take a mini vacation. Blah blah blah. Things are amazing but she keeps telling me she isn't ready to hop back in to a relationship. I am totally cool with this as I am just stoked to be seeing her again.

 

Every time we hang out she would subtly mention her ex saying little comments like "blah and I did this" "blah didn't treat me as good as you do" "blah and I fought about this and that"... It would really piss me off that she would even bring him up so I told her and she said she could tell it pissed me off. Now that I think about it she never even apologized for that..

 

We spent a great weekend together a week ago, when suddenly communication is cut. I don't hear back from or for 2 days and when I do it goes something like this.

 

" hey, I love my ex and he loves me, we are going to spend our lives together. I need you to delete my contact info and never contact me again. I was just using you to get over him and you were just convenient. Go find your soul mate as I have already found mine and it's not you." ( ps she broke up with him because he 1.lied about still being married. 2. Lied about his age. 3.treated her like 2nd place in his life) at least this is what my impression was from everything she said.

 

I told her she was a selfish awful human being, and that I never did anything to deserve the way she treated me. I wished her the best but told her karma would be back to get her.

 

Please folks please think twice before getting back involved with an ex.

[ellowmay]

Fawk dat ho.

 

Seriously though, you deserve better. I'm so sorry that happened.

[Chi townD]

Wow! That's nuts! FOLLOW HER ADVICE TO THE LETTER THIS TIME!!!!

[barky2]

Just remember this feeling.

 

Because when they fight or something she will be looking for her CRUTCH and that's you.

 

Use this as motivation.

 

She doesn't know if she's coming or going.

 

But you do.

 

You're going.

 

 

 

Barky

[lauri]

I am so..soo sorry man. I really am. At least now you know her true character and know she isn't even worth your time.

[RiceaRoni]

That's some ****ed up stuff.

 

Super shady. Don't ever give her that chance to do that again.

 

(Because seeing what she did to you, I'm sure her and that guy won't be lasting very long)

 

That's just speculation though.

 

Just move on from her and now know never to let her into your life again.

[happydate]

Hey guys, it has been a long long while since I have posted on this site, but I needed to share this with all of those who may be going through what I did many months ago, and why you should not take back or even give the other person who left you an opportunity.

 

If you want the back ground of my story just search my name and a list of threads will pop up.

 

Anyways....here we go.

 

 

Got an email from an ex who left me out of the blue about 8months ago telling me" hey i just wanted to thank you for always treating me good, I realized that you were a great boyfriend and that it helped me realize the guy I dated after you couldn't do some of those things. If I could mix the two of you it would have been perfect." So that should have been my first red flag...... But no I proceeded to ask her to hang out which she agreed to.

 

When we first meet up I didn't feel a damn thing... It was strange. We had a few drinks. Walked around and suddenly started holding hands. We went back to my house where we eventually started kissing. Big mistake... That broke the emotion barrier for me and I instantly started feeling something again..

 

Anyways weeks go by we hang out a few times a week and go on dates, and take a mini vacation. Blah blah blah. Things are amazing but she keeps telling me she isn't ready to hop back in to a relationship. I am totally cool with this as I am just stoked to be seeing her again.

 

Every time we hang out she would subtly mention her ex saying little comments like "blah and I did this" "blah didn't treat me as good as you do" "blah and I fought about this and that"... It would really piss me off that she would even bring him up so I told her and she said she could tell it pissed me off. Now that I think about it she never even apologized for that..

 

We spent a great weekend together a week ago, when suddenly communication is cut. I don't hear back from or for 2 days and when I do it goes something like this.

 

" hey, I love my ex and he loves me, we are going to spend our lives together. I need you to delete my contact info and never contact me again. I was just using you to get over him and you were just convenient. Go find your soul mate as I have already found mine and it's not you." ( ps she broke up with him because he 1.lied about still being married. 2. Lied about his age. 3.treated her like 2nd place in his life) at least this is what my impression was from everything she said.

 

I told her she was a selfish awful human being, and that I never did anything to deserve the way she treated me. I wished her the best but told her karma would be back to get her.

 

Please folks please think twice before getting back involved with an ex.

 

Well, didn't you get laid again a few times during the second makeup? I hope you did.

[Jenny1234]

What a piece of work! Karma will get her someday! Back to being you!

[petall]

How absolutely mega awful. I feel for you. How cruel is she. At least she showed her true colours (yet again). I wish you well. Take care of yourself.

[HereWeGoAgain1]

Kudos to her though for actually being honest with you in the end. She could have made a lot worse and carried on dragging you through the mill again.

 

Yeah, nasty piece of work though. Don't think this would happen to everyone if they went back to their ex though but yeah, thanks for sharing because there will be people who end up in a similar situation and hopefully they read this first.

[na49]

LOL what a joke! Go have fun with your "soul mate" you witch!

 

Sorry you had your emotions played with like that.

[J21]

That is just extremely awful.

 

I can't imagine anyone would do this kind of thing. I'm really, really sorry you are going through this sh*t.

 

Keep your chin up and try to forget this ever happened.

[TheFriend]

I appreciate the kind words all, fortunately I was not damaged as bad as I was when she initially left me. I feel pretty good and am just sad for her that she thinks it's ok to treat people this way.

[RiceaRoni]

I appreciate the kind words all, fortunately I was not damaged as bad as I was when she initially left me. I feel pretty good and am just sad for her that she thinks it's ok to treat people this way.

 

She'll learn one day.

 

One way or another.

 

Rejoice you don't have to deal with her again.

[HorseLuck]

Holy crap. What a ______ !

 

Hopefully it will come back around tenfold for her.

[Misfortune]

Sorry about what happened to you on the second try.

 

I think this is why you shouldn't go back with your ex without sorting out previous problems, taking things slowly and being more aware on the next go around.

[Ethliz]

Can't believe there are people like her. You're right Karma will get her; be thankful she's out of your life. Unfortunately I'm deeply in love with my ex so he does what he pleases with me :{ at least she made it easy to forget her.

[cavalier99]

Hahaha. What a c*nt. Sorry bro. Way to hang strong. Lesson learned. Youll be all the better for having gone thru this. At least she didnt string you along. Be grateful she is openly that seflish because in the end she unintentionaly did you a favor. Rock on! Cav

Edited September 24, 2013 by cavalier99

[Chi townD]

I appreciate the kind words all, fortunately I was not damaged as bad as I was when she initially left me. I feel pretty good and am just sad for her that she thinks it's ok to treat people this way.

 

And sooner or later she's going to remember all of the nasty things she said to you. It may not be next week or next month or even next year! But, she's going to reach out to you to gage how much you hate her or even if you do. She may even want to apologize on the way things were handled. When and if that happens, IGNORE IT!!!

[supaflyz]

Seriously what the he-l is wrong with this girl. She doesn't deserve to be call a woman. That is a terrible thing to say to someone. What an awful person!

[travelonic]

Sorry about what happened to you on the second try.

 

I think this is why you shouldn't go back with your ex without sorting out previous problems, taking things slowly and being more aware on the next go around.

 

This.

 

If you solve the problems and really work at it, BOTH of yous, then things can work - that is why I HATE an absolute "NEVER go back," as opposed to a "be cautious" approach that acknowledges a need for BOTH parties to want it, and to work at it, resolving previous issues, things that would lead to a repeat.

[juststan]

Jeez, that's so heartless!!!

I'm really sorry that you had to go through all that.

[Waz]

Wow, i haven't words to describe what i want to say (well i have but the whole post would be like "********").

 

The good thing is that you are already ok and it didn't hurt you much.

This is ****ing disrespect. This bitch really needs to learn some respect.

 

Remember: what goes around comes around.

 

And this is so ****ed up that i sense that karma would let you gladly watch while something similar is happening to her.

 

I really wish, your revenge to her, would be that one day you'll marry a nice woman (if you wish to marry) and be really happy, healthy and with a job making you rich, and since there aren't so hard feelings with her, you would send her an invitation of your marriage to her, the same time she broke up with her 70th boyfriend and reconsidered her attitude towards her life and decided that you were the most appropriate to her. This is mean, but it's like nothing in comparison to what she did it to you.

 

If i were you, i would keep in touch with her (never initiate though), because no doubt she will reach out to you again, and use her as a sex toy like a guy said earlier.

 

Best wishes OP

[RiceaRoni]

Wow, i haven't words to describe what i want to say (well i have but the whole post would be like "********").

 

The good thing is that you are already ok and it didn't hurt you much.

This is ****ing disrespect. This bitch really needs to learn some respect.

 

Remember: what goes around comes around.

 

And this is so ****ed up that i sense that karma would let you gladly watch while something similar is happening to her.

 

I really wish, your revenge to her, would be that one day you'll marry a nice woman (if you wish to marry) and be really happy, healthy and with a job making you rich, and since there aren't so hard feelings with her, you would send her an invitation of your marriage to her, the same time she broke up with her 70th boyfriend and reconsidered her attitude towards her life and decided that you were the most appropriate to her. This is mean, but it's like nothing in comparison to what she did it to you.

 

If i were you, i would keep in touch with her (never initiate though), because no doubt she will reach out to you again, and use her as a sex toy like a guy said earlier.

 

Best wishes OP

 

 

 

Uh Yeah...I wouldn't use her as a sex toy..

 

Not a smart idea..personally.

 

And I wouldn't keep in contact with her.

 

Just move on from her completely and look forward.

[Nicoleiia]

What a jacka$$ she is!!! I can't believe she said that. It just goes to show that a lot of our exes are truly scum and did us a favor by dumping us.