Castravete Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hi, I have a situation with a girl. One week ago, a girl that I met in a foreign country, 3 years ago, came to the city in which i am a full time student. We talked a lot on skype. 1.When she got here she told me on skype that she is all alone and doesn't know what to do and asked me to go over for 5 minutes or so. She placed her telephone number on the chat and i told her to relax because i have to view some flats because i don't have anywhere to live. I called later on and she said that she went downtown with some friends and that she will call me. 2.The second day, i texted her and wrote a lot of messages, she answered briefly and that was it. 3.The third day i called her in the morning saying that i was in the area and wanted to come over in a visit in 30min. I asked her if she is available and she said that she might go out. She said again that she will call me but i said that i'll call her. I did so and she said that she is at home. Went there, and i saw her for the first time. We smiled to each other and didn't really know how to react. No hugs or kisses or anything. Then we went to her room and stood there and talked about everything for 1 and a half hours. I didn't kiss her before leaving and didn't plan anything else. After 2 hours from leaving, i sent her a message saying that i would like to offer her a tour of the town. she said "I don't know if i am available but if i am, yes" - I said that i will call in the next morning. Day 4 - Called her and she appeared busy and she said that she will call me. I waited til 19:00 and called her. She said that she was lazy but if i wanted i could go hang out with her at her flat. I told her to let me know when she would like to go. Day 6, i called her late in the night 22:00 and told her that i wanted to see her. She appeared to be welcoming and happy to talk to me. Furtheron, he suggested that i should call her in the morning. I called her then and we agreed for 4-ish. While on my way, i found a bunch of flowers on a garbage bin and took one to her. I called her 5 min before arriving just to let her know that i am coming. I managed to get inside and she came down to open the door. She was wearing a somewhat transparent shirt and her bra could be seen. I offered her the flower, she said thanks and she took me towards the kitchen. She offered tea, cookies and chocolate. She then took a place by my side and a lot of colleagues came in. They were analyzing me and trying to figure out who i was. I had some moments in which i did some bad jokes. She was very opened at first. A guy asked us if we are still going for a walk and she said that she is lazy to go and that no one can convince her otherwise. In the end, they talked about a party and i asked what's it about. A gay guy then invited me and afterwards she invited me. I was reluctant at first then said yes. We went out to buy some alcohol and before coming back, i said that i would go back home to change my clothes and let her know to give me a sign when they were going. I approached the girl and kissed her on both cheeks before leaving ( kissed her for the first time here - i wanted to kiss her forehead ). After one hour and a half and 3 hours, i gave her a call but without an answer or call-back. Day 8 - Called her at around 20:30 but after 2 rings she rejected the call. What do you feel about this whole thing ? Should there be a way to turnaround this situation for good ? I respect and like her. I was a little shy and lacked action but still ... I feel that she is a girl that i like for her way of thinking and the degree at which i can relate to her. ( 21-19 y. old ) Today is day 9.
Sunlight72 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 This woman is not interested in a relationship with you. She is interested in going where the party is, and you are just one of many friends to her. When she doesn't call or text you back, it is because she is already hanging out with someone (persons 1, 2 & 3) or calling someone else (person 4 or 5) or texting someone else (persons 6,7,8,9 & 19). She is not interested in you as a boyfriend. You can't change that.
Author Castravete Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Thank you for your reply. It would be rational to consider other fishes in the pound yet, i would like to consider rising her interest.
BBR84 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Doesn't sound like she's too interested, chief.
Author Castravete Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 I saw her today and we waved hands to each other and smiled and afterwards we laughed ... it happened once before when a girl liked me and i liked her. Sounds bull****, I know.
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