utwonderwoman Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 We broke up for several months. He was willing to try again and then dumped me; several times. Well this time seemed different. He was actually trying and involved and loving. Talked about our future and saying he loves me. There used to be issues with insecurities in my past. I went to counseling and I understand that I can't control the world and there is no sense worrying about it. Well, he called me at two in the morning to let me know he was done with work. I had taken a sleeping pill because I have a five 16 hour days ahead of me. I answered the phone and he said I was asking him where he was, was he a good boy, all that crap. At two in the morning. I personally did not remember the phone conversation at all. Now he is all pissed off saying that he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. I asked for a little leniency seeing as how I was asleep and didn't remember, but apologized for hurting him anyway. He refuses to take my calls, won't answer whether or not we are still spending Thanksgiving together. He keeps asking me why I can't just be normal. I am a nice, loving, adoring person that worships the ground he walks on. What am I supposed to do here. We have been on this rollercoster for several months. What do I do? Why is he acting like this? thanks for your help.
Joyce Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 I dated someone like that once.. it sucks. He needs to grow up. There is nothing more annoying than an immature boy. You are better off without him.
Merin Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 He's acting like this because when he does call you to let you know he's fine and whatever then you start on him about "Has he been a good boy?" My bf did this to me all of the time, and it was annoying. Ask yourself this.. why do you ask him if he's been a "good boy" it is condencending and honestly what answer do you think you're going to get? I know it doesn't seem like a big deal to you.. but trust me when you're the person who is being asked this question without reason it gets to be a drag and makes a person angry. Sorry.. I just can't see anything good coming of asking someone this question.. you didn't say he ever cheated on you in the relationship.. so I can't see why you have to ask this.
Author utwonderwoman Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 His whole thing that I am not normal and that I am too immature. He is always telling me, why can't you talk like a normal person. I don't even know what that means. I think that I am normal. Or as normal as one person can expect to be.
beejsea2 Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Sounds like he's trying to find fault in you! Maybe the best option for you is to move on. You stated that you've gotten back to together and you keep breaking up. Why keep putting yourself through this rollercoaster...it's time to get off and move on and take care of yourself.
Author utwonderwoman Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 Why does he keep trying to find fault with me? When we are together it is so wonderful. And whenever he talks about our future, he just goes on and on about how it is going to work. What the hell is he doing? Is there a male perspective out there?
beejsea2 Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 I think you know what your options are...you need to move on and take care of yourself...if not you'll be in this continuous cycle of getting back together and breaking up, he deciding that you're not "normal" Please what is normal anyway??? You said you were in counseling...are you still seeing someone?? YOU can't keep hurting yourself like this anymore!
moon Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 My ex used to do this to me. We lived in a different time zone from each other and he called me a lot in the middle of the night. I remember one time he did this. The phone rang at like 5 in the morning and I picked it up. I was totally groggy and just kept repeating myself and asking him strange questions (I don't even remember). This started a fight with us as well. I found myself apologizing for saying what ever it was that I said. I was talking to somebody else about it and they were like why does this guy think he can call you at that hour. Once we finally got over our fight I returned the favor. I called him at the same time, his time (which I could have easily done all along because that was actually the afternoon for me and a much more convienent time for me.) He did the same thing. He was all groggy and sort of got angry at me about a few things and I got sort of bent out of shape. Then the shoe was on the other foot. When he called me back later he was apologizing and didn't know exactly what he had said. He said he wasn't going to call me anymore in the middle of the night. He said he didn't like it when I called him at that hour. He did go back to calling me at weird times later. But I just turned my ringer off and didn't answer the calls. I then called him back at a normal hour because I wasn't coherent at the times he was calling. But basically it is rude to wake somebody up in the middle of the night. Nobody likes it. He should know that. This guy just sounds like he's playing games. I wouldn't talk to him again until HE comes to his senses. He should realize that just by calling you at that inappropriate hour is rude and you could have reacted in a number of ways.
Author utwonderwoman Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 He had the nerve to ask me why I answered the phone in the first place, he was just going to leave a message. Can you believe that???
beejsea2 Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Well he should have know for one that your phone would have been on. If he wanted to talk to you he could have waited until morning to call you.
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