Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 My ex moved and it's driving me crazy. He lived alone when we were together. Then after the breakup I assume he was lonely and went out and found a random place on Craigslist. Now he is living with two dudes and it's driving me nuts. I feel like I was replaced by these guys. They are filling the void and time that was once ours. I keep telling myself these new roommates will me we replace me but its really driving my mind wild. Is he out living it up? Having a great new life? What are they like? So many questions running through my head! We are both early 30s...I feel like he is regressing back to college life and partying and I'm over those days and bar scene. Does this stuff bother other people?
JoelBarish Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 You know it WOULD bother me if I kept tabs on my ex as much as you have. That is why I go out of my way to NOT find out things. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Would you rather he moved in with a girl?? And, yeah, time to stop making it your business anyway... 3
CC12 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 He's your ex. You're supposed to not care what he does. I mean, yeah, honestly I might be a little jealous that he's out meeting new people and having new experiences while I'm not doing any of that (you're not, are you?) but try to let logic prevail. He's a single man, he's allowed to do whatever he wants. Why are you even concerning yourself with what he does, anyway? Do you have kids together or something? 3
reddragon588 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Does this stuff bother other people? Yes, which is why I make a point of not following the comings and goings of my ex. If I don't know, it doesn't bother me. 1
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 I was doing so good the first 2 months after the breakup. I didn't care if he was on the moon. But recently we started texting again and obviously that's where the info comes from. I know again I need to distance myself. I clearly can not handle being a texting buddy with him. I don't even understand why he would want to be in contact with me again and chitchat over text with no desire to see me. It doesn't make sense to me. Time to back off the entire situation again. I am living my life to the fullest, even dating, but still after 4 months I wish he would come back. Time to go back to serious NC. No good is coming of being in contact for me. I guess I should be happy it's not another girl but I know that will come sometime and I really don't want to know about it!
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 . He's a single man, he's allowed to do whatever he wants. Very true...I like this line. This is what he wanted so go live the single life. And I won't be here when you grow up and realize its not all its cracked up to be! I'm back on my path doing me and finding someone who wants to be with me and wants a relationship like I do. I keep reminding myself that at my age I'm in the majority of wanted to move forward with my life and he's not. I guess I'm just ready for more serious stuff and he's not. That's what it comes down to in the end
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Would you rather he moved in with a girl?? And, yeah, time to stop making it your business anyway... Nope and when that day comes I certainly don't want to know about it. Rather out my head in the clouds
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Nope and when that day comes I certainly don't want to know about it. Rather out my head in the clouds Egg zachary
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Egg zachary Lol What does that mean!?
Minneloa Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I was doing so good the first 2 months after the breakup. I didn't care if he was on the moon. But recently we started texting again and obviously that's where the info comes from. I know again I need to distance myself. I clearly can not handle being a texting buddy with him. I don't even understand why he would want to be in contact with me again and chitchat over text with no desire to see me. It doesn't make sense to me. Time to back off the entire situation again. I am living my life to the fullest, even dating, but still after 4 months I wish he would come back. Time to go back to serious NC. No good is coming of being in contact for me. I guess I should be happy it's not another girl but I know that will come sometime and I really don't want to know about it! Now you're talking, sister! The bolded above is smart & self-aware. Now you just have to implement it, and we are here to support you! M (3.5 months NC; painful, but less so than questions and false hope) 1
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Now you're talking, sister! The bolded above is smart & self-aware. Now you just have to implement it, and we are here to support you! M (3.5 months NC; painful, but less so than questions and false hope) I know what's best for me...but sometimes I just get derailed. My heart beats out my head sometimes unfortunately. Back on the NC train. This self torture is getting me nowhere. I know he must be confused or miss me to a degree...he would be texting and open to contact if he wasn't but I don't see him outside my door with flowers to get me back....so I will keep pushing forward
Minneloa Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I know what's best for me...but sometimes I just get derailed. My heart beats out my head sometimes unfortunately. Back on the NC train. This self torture is getting me nowhere. I know he must be confused or miss me to a degree...he would be texting and open to contact if he wasn't but I don't see him outside my door with flowers to get me back....so I will keep pushing forward In this, you are certainly not alone! Most of us here need others to serve as "heads" when our hearts are all over the map.
Author Jenny1234 Posted September 24, 2013 Author Posted September 24, 2013 Thanks... This forum has helped me get through so much! 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Lol What does that mean!? Exactly...
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