Liluna Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hello, It's 6am here. It's been yet again a sleepless night...I am here because I am going through the worst break up of my life and I think I am becoming obsessive...But, here's the story. I met this guy 3 years ago. We started off as **** buddies, then best friends with benefits and (at his decision) official lovers. I've been in love with him since the very begging, or at least I thought I was. Anyway, after a year of us being together he wanted a breakup. I was going through some stuff and he felt it was way too much to handle. 3 months later he wanted me back, then not anymore...and so on...and here we are, 2 years later. The present situation is this: after he asked me to move in with him and I did. Immediately he decided moving in together was not the best decision, and that, after I already gave up my rented apartment. Oh, well...and then...we decided to break up. Broken up and while him knowing I still have feelings he had sex with me and treated me like his official GF, asking me out, calling etc. And the good part came when I got an amazing job opportunity abroad. I took it immediately and was to leave in August. He agreed I could stay with him until my departure. But then it got postponed and then kinda canceled. In the meantime I kinda worn off my savings and canceled my projects and job prospects. When the job got canceled he immediately asked me to move out. So there... While all the job+house situation I consider manageable, the main problem is that I can't seem to be able to stay away from him. He texts...I'm there, he calls I run to him and so on. Now he went away for 2 weeks, during which I am supposed to move out. I know for a fact that he is dating there. How do I know this?! Because I CAN'T STOP CHECKING HIS EMAIL AND STALKING HIM ON FACEBOOK, GTALK, OKCUPID ETC! No, for real, it's all I've been doing for the last 2-3 days...He occupies my mind almost 24h/day. I don't want this to be me. I want to move on, I want out...I need out. I need to be doing way more constructive things with my life than this. But how?! Any ideas? Sorry for my lack of coherence, I am am tired and emotional. Thanks, L.
Philosoraptor Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 To put it simply, he is using you because he knows you will let him. Every time he calls you come running back, and he can drop you just as easily. These are not characteristics of someone who truly cares about you. Right now you need to stop communicating with him, in any way. Block his number, his facebook, his email, and any other way he can contact you. Then you need to stop checking up on him as well as it is doing nothing but causing you more pain. After this you need to fill your life with hobbies, friends, family, and anything else that will help you deter your mind and fill your life with happiness. 2
Author Liluna Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Thanks, actually that was also my plan. Hope I'll be able to stick with it. He will be back in town tomorrow. I have to see him to give him his keys back. I will remind myself your advice to stay strong.
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