kat1012 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 My boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me at the beginning of August. He was my first love and it hurt me pretty badly. But after one month of NC, I felt much better already. Since I had stuff at his place, at the beginning of this month, I texted him to asking to get my stuff back. He said yes and suggested to get a drink/coffee too. We did, and we caught up with each others' lives and we both had a good time. In the end, he said it was nice to see me and we should catch up again sometime. And after meeting him again, I realized I like talking to him but I don't want to flirt with him or kiss him anymore, and I felt like I have moved on a lot. We sorta started talking again after that. One time I ran into him at a bar, he invited me and my friend to join his table but we didn't. The next morning, we caught up a bit through text. And one time I texted him for some advice, which he gave me some pretty good ones and he sounded quite enthusiastic, and a few days later he asked me how it went. And recently he wished me a happy mid-autumn festival. Our text conversations have always been short and we commented on each others' FB a few times Sometimes, especially when I am lonely and bored, I miss him and want to text him or ask him to hang out or grab a drink. I want to text him asking how he is doing and then maybe chat with each other, I never did it since I don't want to sound awkward or look weak to him. And I guess I still fear being rejected. I spend my time with my friends and parents and school can be quite busy at times. But sometimes when my friends and my parents are busy and I feel bored and lonely, I want to talk to him. Will it be awkward if I text him just to catch up or, even ask him to meet up for a drink/coffee sometime later?
ellowmay Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 If you think you are strong enough to handle contact without making It romantic, and he thinks he can handle it, there should be no problem being friends. Just make your boundaries clear and stick to them. If you can't, make contact minimal and neutral, as in adding other people, going to public places, etc. Focus on why youenjoy his company as a friend and as a person. Platonic relationships are equally if not more rewarding in these scenarios. It will build your character. Just know yourself and follow your better instincts.
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