This is the story of a second chance...

[hellischrome]

Background - 6 months together, we both broke up with our ex partners (7 and 9 years) to be together, things were bad, we did nothing but fighting, in the end he dumped me twice questioning his feelings and wondering if he did the right choice stayin with me and that maybe he wanted to go back to his ex instead.

 

After our last fight, in August, he told me he did not want to stay with me as his feeling weren't clear and he had to make a choice. He told me he was going to travel for a month, and that he hoped we would meet again one day. His biggest issue was that he couldn't tell his ex that he was closing the door, as he felt anxious at the idea of losing her forever. He didn't want to do it and this made him feel unsure of his feelings for me. Also, his family never had a good opinion about me for how things happened and because he was suffering and I was part of the reason cause I couldn't let him go. He was so stuck that he couldnt even decide on a Thursday what to do in the weekend.

 

I went completely NC for a full month and moved on with my life. I have been one busy person, even hooked up with another friend, worked as crazy, focused on sport and friends. I did my counseling sessions and yeah I basically did everything a person does to move on.

 

About 10 days ago, he wrote to me at night saying he needed to talk to me, and that he could wait for hours.

 

So I bet, and met him. He went down on his knees for one hour, saying he was sorry. Saying he went crazy during that month. Saying he wrote to his ex to cut the connection with her, saying that he didn't want to go back with her because he wanted me. He talked to his family, telling her I am his choice. He said we should think about moving in because that's what he wants to do, just be with me and wake up next to me. He made plans with me for the following month, and talked about Christmas. Before all of this he couldn't stand seeing me too often because it made him feel uncomfortable, and now I just spent 10 days at his apartment. He is introducing me as his girlfriend.

 

What happened?

 

I don't know. I know he is genuine, I know he is not faking. But I also know he is entusiastic and things will change as we both are busy with private life/work, and it cannot always be like this. I don't know if he solved his issues, but I decided to trust actions and not words for once. His actions are telling me I can trust him, even if I will need time and he knows it. When I will be ready, I will tell my friends about it and he will come back in my life, officially. So far, he is all over me.

 

This is not a - sometimes second chances work- because we may break up tomorrow, or in a week, or in a month, or never. But it's true that we need to let someone go, both to give them the freedom to come back and to give US the time and the strenght to rebuild ourselves, to be ready when he will come back, or someone new will enter our life.

[r321148]

This is a nice story. I'm glad you worked things out and that time helped you.

Best of luck with it moving forward!

[sjm]

This is beautiful. I hope it all works out for you.