Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 You absolutely didIll be sure to say "fawk her!" It will propel me forward and live a happy life Stuck I was but I pledge to move forward it's such a waste to contact her as she clearly has no desire to reply Amazing Meh back to business 1
RiceaRoni Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Argh man. I broke NC before but it wasn't as weak as what you said......I feel for you man. If you're going to say something make yourself sound strong, not weak. Or...just don't say anything. Be strong guys. Fight the urge.
RiceaRoni Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 You absolutely didIll be sure to say "fawk her!" It will propel me forward and live a happy life Stuck I was but I pledge to move forward it's such a waste to contact her as she clearly has no desire to reply Amazing Meh back to business lol you gotta do what you gotta do. Goodluck
crederer Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Yah true....she tried contacting me a bunch of times and I ignored her then one day she left a message crying and saying she misses me so i called her back. I don't regret it, I felt validated that she was having a hard time with it and the tables were turned, so to speak. I also wanted her back at the time, obviously. 1
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Weak indeed what's done is done dont want to kick myself over it for a while 1
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Looking to put this mistake behind and his write it off. I wasn't thinking clearly. Alcohol got the best of me again. I need to recommit and be so faithful to almighty NC Move forward. 2
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Just starting to realize how silly tonight was. I have to start from the bottom.
crederer Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hey man, it's only as bad as you make it out to be. It's not a huge deal, just chalk it up to a learning experience and take it one day at a time. 2
RiceaRoni Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Looking to put this mistake behind and his write it off. I wasn't thinking clearly. Alcohol got the best of me again. I need to recommit and be so faithful to almighty NC Move forward. I'd advise to stay away from alcohol for a while... It's a depressant, which doesn't help if you're going through something like this. Just a suggestion. 2
RiceaRoni Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Just starting to realize how silly tonight was. I have to start from the bottom. It's okay. I can list to you how many times I've broken NC before. Just put it behind you and start over. 3
barky2 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Lol if it makes you feel any better I've broken nc with worse. Just stay strong. You've done nc for 4 months...that's huge. Now just restart the clock. Just this time laugh at what you did...truly its not a big deal. Barky 1
Eddie007 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Clearly not... I will admit, I'm on the side of the road shedding tears, damn it hurts!!!!!!!! Please tell me you were not drinking and driving! Hopefully I misunderstood that. JDPT - If it is any comfort to you, you are one of the people I have looked up to since joining this community over a month ago as I was starting to deal with my dumping. Whenever a new post would pop up from a fresh broken heart I could rest assured you would be one of the first posters to give advice and comfort. That takes courage! Stay strong my friend. I hope I can return the favor to you as you have helped me numerous times while not necessiarly talking directly to me but by your advice to others I can apply to my situation.
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Please tell me you were not drinking and driving! Hopefully I misunderstood that. JDPT - If it is any comfort to you, you are one of the people I have looked up to since joining this community over a month ago as I was starting to deal with my dumping. Whenever a new post would pop up from a fresh broken heart I could rest assured you would be one of the first posters to give advice and comfort. That takes courage! Stay strong my friend. I hope I can return the favor to you as you have helped me numerous times while not necessiarly talking directly to me but by your advice to others I can apply to my situation. It's comforting to know I can make a positive impact specially in moments of distress. I need to analyze what lead me to this and perhaps internalize my own words and advice. In retrospect things have been brewing for a few weeks now. I know deep in my heart that I do not want her back and luckily to my benefit accepted there is not turning back. So, I feel that I desire once again that fantasy I lived with her and not so much reality. As many others I'm stuck fantasizing over the great moments and utterly neglect reality. I need to bring myself back to reality and truthfully put an end to this vicious cycle. What bothers me just a bit is coming across like a complete idiot to her. Albeit my message wasn't to the effect of "I need you, love you!" I still feel as if I've given some of my "power" away that in time I'm certain I will retrieve with much effort set forth. I deeply appreciate your kind words forward motion from this point forward.
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Lol if it makes you feel any better I've broken nc with worse. Just stay strong. You've done nc for 4 months...that's huge. Now just restart the clock. Just this time laugh at what you did...truly its not a big deal. Barky Last night feels so silly. Truth is and you may not believe as I was typing that ridiculous message I was ready to delete it and not send it but inadvertently hit "send" and away it went. I couldn't believe it, I was upset at the moment but managed to let it go. I'm not diminish what I did last night but rather accept it, learn from it, and watch it go like clouds in the sky. I may have lost a small battle last night but we are still at war and I will for certain come out of this whole mess victorious. 1
RiceaRoni Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I may have lost a small battle last night but we are still at war and I will for certain come out of this whole mess victorious. Great way to look at it. You got this! Win the war and come out a hero for yourself. 1
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 It's okay. I can list to you how many times I've broken NC before. Just put it behind you and start over. I'm trying to be as easy as possible and will absolutely not allow this to bother me at all. I guess all I'm feeling now is that silly feeling after someone does something ridiculous. It's done, I'll leave it in the past where it belongs, back to business. Thank your kind words teaches me that I can be gentle with myself at times and that nothing is perfect. And that I should indulge in my "ups" and learn from my "downs". 1
lovesucks76 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I'm trying to be as easy as possible and will absolutely not allow this to bother me at all. I guess all I'm feeling now is that silly feeling after someone does something ridiculous. It's done, I'll leave it in the past where it belongs, back to business. Thank your kind words teaches me that I can be gentle with myself at times and that nothing is perfect. And that I should indulge in my "ups" and learn from my "downs". JDPT, what you did was impulsive, emotional and completely normal. Maybe this is the closure you were seeking. Don't be too hard on yourself. What differnce does it make now? It's done and it sounds like you're ready to move on now. You obviously loved your ex very much and there's no shame in that. Acknoledge the pain you feel and let it go eventually. I have stopped judging my actions since my BU and just going with what feels right now. My ex contacted me after a couple weeks and it felt like breadcrumbs then so I didn't reply, now after almost 2 months we started chatting and hanging out again. Not sure if we will ever get back together again but at least I'm getting the closure I was seeking. I will never stop loving her but I can now move on after I've assured myself that we are just not meant to be together. 1
Author JDPT Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 JDPT, what you did was impulsive, emotional and completely normal. Maybe this is the closure you were seeking. Don't be too hard on yourself. What differnce does it make now? It's done and it sounds like you're ready to move on now. You obviously loved your ex very much and there's no shame in that. Acknoledge the pain you feel and let it go eventually. I have stopped judging my actions since my BU and just going with what feels right now. My ex contacted me after a couple weeks and it felt like breadcrumbs then so I didn't reply, now after almost 2 months we started chatting and hanging out again. Not sure if we will ever get back together again but at least I'm getting the closure I was seeking. I will never stop loving her but I can now move on after I've assured myself that we are just not meant to be together. Acceptance is a step closer to recovery. I know in my heart that I do not want her back, I understand that very well. The relationship was tainted and in smithereens. When I saw her I felt nothing, no emotions whatsoever as if you just past a stranger on the street who you don't think twice about. There is always a standard holy grail to implement when dealing with breakups and I think it's best for me to get back on it and commit to the approach. They say never say never but I would quiet honestly never want to be her friend or keep in touch or care to know how she is doing overall. It's best to severe the cord entirely. It's very interesting because with other exes I care to know how they are doing or what they are up to but with my current ex, I want to believe she has vanished and perhaps never existed that it was all a bad dream. A delusional objective perhaps? possibly, but if I had a "delete" button to erase all memories stored on file I would have used it long ago. Again, it's back to business. I am all that matters from this point forward. My recovery is of outmost concern and priority. We all need to live and feel again. And we will in time, we will weather this storm and will enjoy clear skies with a horizon with an abundance of potentials ahead. 1
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