PlumPrincess Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I just read a profile with poor spelling and grammar and was wondering if that is a reasonable reason to dismiss a profile (the assumption is that the guy is not dyslexic)? I just can't stand reading texts with too many mistakes. It insults my eyes and I infer from that the guy is probably a bit uneducated or quite careless. Am I being too picky?
ScienceGal Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I feel the same way, you're not being picky.
93TheHitStick Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 In my opinion that says a lot about something. Your grammar doesn't have to be perfect because mines is far from it. But if you seem barely literate that is gross.
heartshaped Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I just read a profile with poor spelling and grammar and was wondering if that is a reasonable reason to dismiss a profile (the assumption is that the guy is not dyslexic)? I just can't stand reading texts with too many mistakes. It insults my eyes and I infer from that the guy is probably a bit uneducated or quite careless. Am I being too picky? I have always judged OLD profiles harshly if the spelling/grammar was terrible. But I do have a very good friend who is dyslexic and her spelling is horrible (understandably). However, I never even considered for a moment that, that may be an explanation for someone's bad spelling or grammar. I'm assuming though that would be a highly unlikely possibility? Then again, I'm not sure how much of the population is dyslexic...
deathandtaxes Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I just read a profile with poor spelling and grammar and was wondering if that is a reasonable reason to dismiss a profile (the assumption is that the guy is not dyslexic)? I just can't stand reading texts with too many mistakes. It insults my eyes and I infer from that the guy is probably a bit uneducated or quite careless. Am I being too picky? What about the profile itself? Any redeeming qualities or is the poor grammar/spelling just too much of a turnoff?
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I just can't stand reading texts with too many mistakes. It insults my eyes and I infer from that the guy is probably a bit uneducated or quite careless. Am I being too picky? Or he's not serious enough about the profile to make a positive, first impression. People today, depending on how young, are terrible spellers and grammar is lax b/c of the automatic auto-spell/grammar checks that do most of the work for them. When they're gone, they are lost....
El Brujo Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Me talk like Cookie Monster! That why me type that way! **grunt grunt** 3
crederer Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I had a person whose profile was fine but when we texted each other it was terrible spelling. She's in school to become a teacher. Go figure. Not a deal breaker but a turn off, for sure.
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I had a person whose profile was fine but when we texted each other it was terrible spelling. She's in school to become a teacher. Go figure. Not a deal breaker but a turn off, for sure. People can get seriously lazy with texting...
El Brujo Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Jeezus, people... maybe these terrible spellers have a learning inability. Have a little mercy on them. The US is not some third world country where we put those kind of people in horrible hospitals for nuts. If my observations of the rest of humanity are any yardstick, dating a dimbulb might not be so bad...
Lokie Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Absolute turn-off and very likely deal breaker for me. I'll take overweight, bald or unattractive any day over bad grammar and spelling. A good writer is quite hot to me. (And we have quite a few hotties right here on LS!)
Leigh 87 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I tend to be the same, in spite of the fact that I, myself, am not exactly a rocket scientist. I am not judging them. My mums has been an English teacher her entire life and I went to an expensive high school. Although I screweddd school up due to being too lasy to give a damn, I still managed to pick up the bare essentials that many grown men fail to grasp... As long as they can use the right too/to's and their/they're and their, as well as hear and there. If they cannot even get those simple things correct, I would not add them to online dating nor would I accept an offer to correspond on the sites where people do not have to get you to accept them before you talk. However, in real life, a guy I met in Germany who I wrote on here about.. He cannot get those grammatical things I outlined right every time, yet he was just an awesome guy with a great life going for him and so I overlooked it. In OLD I would not overlook bad grammar. In real life, if I fall for the person when we are face to face, and only then work out that they are perhaps not the best spoken men.. I overlook it. You are absolutely NOT being too fussy.
Leigh 87 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I tend to be the same, in spite of the fact that I, myself, am not exactly a rocket scientist. I am not judging them. My mums has been an English teacher her entire life and I went to an expensive high school. Although I screweddd school up due to being too lasy to give a damn, I still managed to pick up the bare essentials that many grown men fail to grasp... As long as they can use the right too/to's and their/they're and their, as well as hear and there. If they cannot even get those simple things correct, I would not add them to online dating nor would I accept an offer to correspond on the sites where people do not have to get you to accept them before you talk. However, in real life, a guy I met in Germany who I wrote on here about.. He cannot get those grammatical things I outlined right every time, yet he was just an awesome guy with a great life going for him and so I overlooked it. In OLD I would not overlook bad grammar. In real life, if I fall for the person when we are face to face, and only then work out that they are perhaps not the best spoken men.. I overlook it. You are absolutely NOT being too fussy. lazy** not lasy. Genuine typo there people:lmao:
Emilia Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Jeezus, people... maybe these terrible spellers have a learning inability. Have a little mercy on them. The US is not some third world country where we put those kind of people in horrible hospitals for nuts. Have mercy for sure but that doesn't mean you date them. If my observations of the rest of humanity are any yardstick, dating a dimbulb might not be so bad... They are not. You are too pessimistic. 1
carhill Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 As an experiment, create a profile with some really attractive unsearchable photos and a lousy combination of content and grammar/spelling. Observe the results. Then, do the reverse and observe the results. This first occurred to me when observing a LS'er do this, purposely. Her photos, but a generally obscene and pejorative (to males) profile. She happens to be quite attractive to men and her mailbox was, at the times I observed directly, flooded with responses, and no mail bombs that I observed. Such are the vagaries of virtual dating/mating; in reality, not far removed from in-person dating and mating. Good luck.
TigerCub Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Having spelling and grammar errors in a profile shows a lack of interest in the whole OLD process. Even if someone can't spell well, or isn't a pro at writing proper sentences, how hard is it really to run a spell check on what they wrote? Failing to do that just says 'I can't be bothered to put in ANY effort, and I don't care what you think' so why would anyone be bothered to get to know or date anyone with that attitude to begin with? Ugh, I just skip those people. 1
Standard-Fare Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Let me add a contrary opinion. I don't think people should be dismissed for poor grammar/spelling. That's shallow. Some people just aren't good at type of thing, their brains aren't wired that way, and it shouldn't be seen as a representation of their intelligence. I say this as someone who works as an editor, so I obviously notice these types of mistakes. But I've both dated and been friends with people who are atrocious at spelling and grammar, and I've learned to get over judging people for that. The people I know who are bad at that stuff are actually very bright (sometimes genius) in other ways. A couple of them are legitimately dyslexic. Pay more attention to the way the logic of the writing flows, the coherency of their sentences, and the emotion/feeling behind it. That's a lot more important.
Author PlumPrincess Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Thanks everyone for your opinion. I'm not sure if someone who is too creative with spelling and grammar is the right person for me since I very often fell for the guy who was good with words and writing, but ok, I'll try to keep an open mind and not dismiss someone immediately if his profile has too many mistakes.
MissBee Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 The thing with online is that the first thing people see, besides your picture, is how you express yourself via the written word. That said, it becomes a lot more important in that context than if you just meet someone out and about and have a conversation and realize they're intelligent, funny, interesting, etc. then later see they don't spell well. I would like for the man I'm with to be good at expressing himself through the written word and it would be hard for me to be attracted to a profile I was annoyed by or can barely read. It does say a lot. You don't need perfect spelling and grammar, but a man whose words flow and make sense, what he writes is funny and well articulated etc will get my attention and make me feel we have more in common than one whose profile doesn't. It is one thing to have a few spelling errors or improper grammar, certainly even as I type here, I am pretty informal and use more colloquial ways of speaking which aren't necessarily grammatically correct, but if it is a case where it's clear you really can't spell or don't really know grammar at all, then sorry, but it will be hard for me to communicate with you in a way I'm used to. That's not shallow, that's us not jiving.
Philosopher Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Thanks everyone for your opinion. I'm not sure if someone who is too creative with spelling and grammar is the right person for me since I very often fell for the guy who was good with words and writing, but ok, I'll try to keep an open mind and not dismiss someone immediately if his profile has too many mistakes. You could always wait and see what his messages are like. If they, like his profile are sloppy in terms of grammar and spelling then he could well be either uneducated or careless. On the other hand, if they have no or very few spelling and grammatical mistakes then he could have just been in a hurry or been having an off day when he wrote his profile.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I just read a profile with poor spelling and grammar and was wondering if that is a reasonable reason to dismiss a profile (the assumption is that the guy is not dyslexic)? Of course!!! This is a day and age where thousands of people all over the internet are effectively dismissed when their chronological age does not land neatly (or barely) within the range stated in your profile. And you are seemingly a woman, potentially a princess even, and thus with the scores and scores of responses you might tend to get, any criteria at all by which you can narrow your focus is bound to be of some relief/comfort. (LOL - I almost misspelled "comfort" there - I shoulda left it)
Author PlumPrincess Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Of course!!! This is a day and age where thousands of people all over the internet are effectively dismissed when their chronological age does not land neatly (or barely) within the range stated in your profile. And you are seemingly a woman, potentially a princess even, and thus with the scores and scores of responses you might tend to get, any criteria at all by which you can narrow your focus is bound to be of some relief/comfort. (LOL - I almost misspelled "comfort" there - I shoulda left it) Damn court jester. Good personnel is so hard to find these days.
fanine Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Bear in mind some people might not have english as their first language and therefore spelling and grammar will be an issue. My boyfriend is not a native english speaker, he speaks english brilliantly though and when we talk there are no communication problems at all. But he has never actually learnt to write english properly as he only moved to an english speaking country when he was an adult. Therefore texts, emails etc are kept to a minimum on his side, though I do help him with his written english so he can improve. And I am also learning his language...
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