Mcnulty Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 She got back in touch 6 weeks ago, we've met every week since, contact every day, sexting constantly. She asks me why i feel unsettled, I say health work etc, she asks what i want to feel part of, I say you and your life, she totally disregards this says everything will get better, WTF? I back off, hurt, feel a fool..why get back in touch? Is it just FWB she wants?? Really? after 10 years she lowers me to a conquest?? I back off for the last 3 days, she rings me today wanting to meet and asking why I've been so distant, i tell her...she says it's always about me. WTF again man, I meet her, she's upset about something that happened in her life, i console/comfort her and that's it...she makes silly naughty suggestions..I'm not reacting...what is her deal, what does she want from me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated guys, thanks for reading.
thishatteredsymphony Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Stop talking to her, man. All this is causing is further torment on your end. Go No Contact and stick to that. 3
Author Mcnulty Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Thanks for replying. You really think I should just cut it? I'm still in love with her...10 years of history...I don't know man, she's texting me asking to meet tomorrow which I can't as if what i said has meant nothing. Too old for this **** man, I will not be a notch, no way, but i love the girl.
na49 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 If you love her, ask her why she wants to meet you. Let her know your intentions. Say something like "I still have feelings for you. I'm sorry but I can't deal with just a friendship right now."
heartshapedrocks Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Ask her if she is in or is she out. Simple question. If it is out, than move on. NC. Take care of you. You can either pull the band aid off quickly or slowly but in the end it still hurts..... I wish you the best yes it hard but it gets better with time.
Author Mcnulty Posted September 25, 2013 Author Posted September 25, 2013 Thanks guys, I hear you. She's tried to carry on as before, like what i said didn't happen...it did and I meant it, I wanted to be part of her life, she dismissed me and has little respect for my feelings obviously. Feel a total idiot. If it had been a short rel I would have put it down to experience, but 10 years man...why get back in touch 6 weeks ago? To do sod all about it??? 1
AnyaNova Posted September 25, 2013 Posted September 25, 2013 You probably are a good source of comfort. Probably touches back to home base without regard for the feelings you have clearly expressed. I think it is time to take care of yourself through NC.
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