volley Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 My boyfriend of six years broke up with me about year and a few months. He broke up with me because I don't think he really knows. He stated he wants diff erent things in all relity we want the same. Then he stated there is nothing left of our relationship. In all reality I think its because I was having a hard time being depressed because we lost out baby and he couldn't handle it. But who knows. We have been talking here and there throught our break up. We also hungout a couple times as friends till the last got heated. He was flirting a lot and i to. It ended in cuddling and kissing. We left it at that. Then we went to nc for about month. Recently we have been texting like friends in which we said will try to be friends. We were talking and he's older than I. Im 27 and he's 42. We were joking around and I said u think your king and he's like I have always been king. I'm like your old and will never change and he goes see this is why arent together. That shocked me. I'm like is he wishing he was back with me. I would love a second chance with him. In my heart I know he is the one that I am supposed to be with for the rest of my life. I know a few things would be the same but yet it would be way different. I asked him in why he sais see this is why we aren't together but he never answered me. Should I just keep our convos causal and flirty? I'm done chasing I want him to chase me. What should I do . I really love this man and miss him and what we had but want to go back because now it would be amazing.
Honey565 Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 If you really love him and you want to be with him, tell him that. Tell him about your feelings and what have changed in th meanwhile. If he still doesn't want to be with you, stop the contact and move on. There is no friendship if two people have different expectations over that friendship. In reality you don't want him as friend, you want him as lover and he doesn't want you or need you as friend either. He wants to keep familiarity that he had with you and to keep all options opened until he can heel his wounds and move on. And all that is covered with "i still care about you as person". Well of course, and you will probably whole life in some way. But just think for one second, if tomorrow you would madly fall in love with somebody else, who would then become everything that your ex was, your lover, your best friend, comfort, security, whatever...would you need your ex in your life? Not at all...that is one big truth. 1
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