clumzboy Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 started dating a new girl after a 2-3 year relationship with someone else. first 6 months, the beginning was great. but soon it was obvious that she wanted more than i was willing to give. i just got out of a long realtionship, and spent a lot of time with my friends, and didn't show her i was looking for something deep, even though i did a lot of really nice things for her and with her, which she would agree with. she broke it off, for 3-4 days, and we got back together. now the tables have turned. i want more than she is able to give. we are still together, and still committed to eachother, but it is hard for her to feel the same way about me that she once did. i know, i screwed up. i waited too long. but i wasn't ready to jump into a serious relationship so quick, despite the fact that i really liked her. over 2 months back together now, we are working on it, but i started smothering her, and she needed "space". i am now giving her more space, which she asked for, so she could have time to "miss me", and so she can focus on finding employment after leaving her job recently. things are better but she says she can't do both at the same time, focus on finding a job and spending the amount of time with me that she used to. i understand. but she is also leery of me being too busy with school and work in the years to come (medical school, residency, etc.). but recently, she has no desire to have sex or be intimate. we concluded that it is due to stress of not having a job, and some other stressful environmental factors, or maybe because of her birth control pills or something. she says she would like to want to have sex more often, but physically, her body just doesn't want it. what can i do??? i am trying to support her and help her find a job, etc., and with her low sex drive, and give her space. but things just aren't exactly balanced. will it just take time?
rowi1116 Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 sounds like there are alot of things she is trying to get control of in her life....be patient with her, and with yourself.....you are a smart guy, we all make mistakes, but we acknowledge them and then move foward....you guys are trying.... be supportive, if things dont change for the better....you....move foward yourself.....good luck!
Author clumzboy Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 hey thanks for the reply. it's pretty much what i had expected to hear so i am glad about that. when you said for me to move forward myself if things do not get better, i assume you mean move on without her? Also, may I ask if this is a girl's perspective or a guy's perspective? Either way, thanks again.
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