NickyG2704 Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 So my partner and I broke up today....and after hurting me so much he asked if we could remain friends. Im so confused because from one side he doesn't want to be with me but on the other side he wants to remain friends. I told him I need to move on and idk if we'll ever be able to be friends. Its so hard for me because I was in love and he broke it off completly randomly and it hurts that he asked me if we could still be friends. Also i bet tmrw I will feel horrible but Its time to move on even if its hard. _______________ “Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.” -unknown 1
Misfortune Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 It's just something they all say as if it'll make you feel any better about being heart broken. They're just saying it to ease their guilt and usually need up abandoning the "friendship". The relationship is over, it doesn't matter what your ex wants anymore. He got what he want, the end of your relationship, it's your turn to be selfish. Do what makes you happy and helps you to move forward with your life 2
keepontruckin Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Misfortune is correct. It's just another standard line they give, like "I love you but I'm not in love with you" and "life is too short."
clementyne Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Mine did the same. It's their (insensitive) way of easing their conscience and trying to remain the "good guy". It's like offering a consolation prize, e.g. I don't wanna be with you, but you can still be my friend. Just adds insult to injury. Decline and go NC! 1
Author NickyG2704 Posted September 22, 2013 Author Posted September 22, 2013 Ya ur right. Its just the way he said it sounded so sincere. He was like "I hope it doesn't sound too harsh, but is it too much to ask if we could remain friends?" it wasn't like oh we can be friends...
clementyne Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Ya ur right. Its just the way he said it sounded so sincere. He was like "I hope it doesn't sound too harsh, but is it too much to ask if we could remain friends?" it wasn't like oh we can be friends... No matter how sincere he is, the fact remains that he doesn't want a relationship with you, so he's offering you the next best thing. And since you still love him, it'll be damn hard and painful to jump from girlfriend to friend just like that, when you've only just broke up and haven't even come to terms with the sudden change in your relationship status. So just take some time to work out your feelings and heal yourself. Then if you feel that you no longer have any strong feelings for him and can handle being friends, then fair enough...but if you still feel the same, then don't go there. He's only doing it to ease his guilt, but you gotta protect yourself from getting hurt again. So better just tell him it's not a good idea right now and go NC. 2
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