cherryblossom16 Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Okay so I'm currently in a LDR and I met my boyfriend a few months ago at the Vans Warped Tour (it's a music festival), I'm 18 years old and in college and he's 19, we live 400 miles apart but he's coming up to my college this weekend to visit me for the first time since we met. He's the most amazing person I've ever met and we both are really serious about each other. However, my mom is kind of crazy when it comes to stuff like this and I have to tell her about him soon so we can continue our relationship without hiding it. I was thinking about telling her this Friday about him and how I met him a few months ago at the concert and how I know I should of told her sooner but how I didn't feel like I could talk to her about boys and stuff (since I really feel like I can't) and tell her that he's coming to see me the next day (Saturday) and we are going to hangout. I was planning on telling her the whole 9 yards (how he's so nice to me, how we are going to make the distance work, etc). I plan on saying that I'm an adult now and I can make my own choices and that if anything she should be happy for me. He plans on coming home with me for Thanksgiving or Christmas to meet the family, we are dedicated to each other for the long run. I guess I'd just really like some advice and input from other people who dealt with similar things (however any type of advice is much appreciated) I've been freaking out lately, filled with anxiety about telling her because I never felt like I could talk to her about things like this. Please, advice would be so appreciated! I'm kind of freaking out. -Cherry Blossom
coolheadal Posted September 24, 2013 Posted September 24, 2013 Good to tell the truth, don't worry about the miles for now. Take a deep breath in and let it out. Think good thoughts with the intent you want for the outcome. Just got to think positive in this situation to develop in a good way. Just relax, don't rush or change the way you live now. Tell your mom and listen to what she has to say. Best to her though. Don't keep secrets today not good idea. Good luck!
OnlyHonesty Posted September 29, 2013 Posted September 29, 2013 Only tell the truth, I wouldn't try to hide how long this has been going on for. I wouldn't make any statements about how you are an adult, that could be perceived as defensive and is unlikely to make a positive difference. It is much better to show her you are an adult, no need to state it. I am sure when you mention he is coming over to meet the family that they will feel at ease because you aren't hiding anything. So be completely honest about why you didn't mention it sooner and everything will be fine.
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