katty Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 I feel better than I did yesterday. I had to go back to counsel my house tonight (rape/victims support group), we just refer to it as the house. I wasn't planning on going back but after several calls complaining about my replacement I decided to go to there tonight and just review the meeting and see how the group was doing with replacement. She called after I had left a message for her that I was coming to review that she couldn't make it, so I wound up right back where I started. I had ask to be replaced after my attack in March mainly b/c I didn't feel as if I would be able to be beneficial to anyone. Well I didn't have no choice tonight so I went. It was actually good therapy for me. I have not been doing well as you all know, and was afraid it would show but I realized after I called the meeting to order that I am much better at pretending than I even knew. It did get things back into perspective for me for the time being anyways. Just wanted to let everyone know that I was feeling better. I guess the best medicine sometimes is by helping others. Thanks for everything all of you did to help me get thru a really bad night last night so thanks ever so much. Kat
moon Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Hi Katty, I remember your other post about how your ex was already engaged to be married. I hope you are doing better. Don't let anybody tell you that there isn't an ample amount of time needed to recover from something like you have been through. I don't know if you remember my responses to your last post, but I too am going through something similar and even though it has been over a month since I heard the news of my ex hooking (and possibly cheating before) up a week after we separated (and stopped living together) it still hurts everyday. There are so many layers to the pain: disappointment, jealousy, sadness, self torture, etc. I have been trying to realize that life is like a pendulum and that the happiest day of one person's life, could be the saddest for another. Everybody is not feeling the same things all at once. Maybe your ex will get married, but on the day he announces a painful divorce, you might be walking down the aisle at your wedding. You never know. Just try to remain as positive as you can. That is what I am trying to do. But I know it's hard everyday. It will probably be like this for me for months. So realize others are feeling the same pain. It SUCKS. It is like one of the worst things you can experience in life.....total betrayal. My break up was very bitter, so I have that to think about too. Hope you are feeling better. I find that counseling does help, at least to get out your feelings.
katty Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Yes I remember your post. I know exactly the ups and downs and it does suck. I may have confused you a little bit and I apologize. Yes counseling does help, but unfortunately the counseling tonight wasn't for me but I am the counselor. I know isn't that just side splitting hilarious? I want you to know that your post yesterday really helped. I appreciated your time and concern. I hope I can repay you one of these days b/c I definitely owe you. Kat
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