bentleychic Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 A slightly more light hearted post because I'm cranky and this will help. (And no, I'm not trying to make light of A's or throw it in anybody's face or anything like that.) This is not a debate nor intended to be one. Favorite and least favorite. Of course least favorite would be that he's married, but I mean ASIDE from that. My favorite is that he is a very giving man and would literally give the shirt off of his back to a perfect stranger. (One situation I remember very specifically. He was driving home and talking to me on the phone. Said he saw some people broke down, they'd run out of gas, but he drove by before realizing what the situation was. He went to the next interstate exit, went all the way back and gave them a ride to the gas station...but then they didn't have any money so he bought them gas, then drove them back to their car.) My least favorite is that when it comes to his personal life, his memory is really bad. He can remember work stuff like a machine, but not so much personal plans (not when it comes to me at this point, but I'm sure it will in time). It's like he uses that part of his brain up on the work stuff and then just has a tiny amount left for personal stuff. LOL
Author bentleychic Posted September 22, 2013 Author Posted September 22, 2013 A lot of cheaters have this 'bad memory' thing. They get very confused as to who they spoke to about what, etc. He's talking to you, he's talking to his wife, soon he can't remember if it was you that told him about that movie you watched or his wife, so he just says "oh, right - I forgot". That way he doesn't need to say anything incriminating to either of you. We don't have that issue. I mean things like birthdays, anniversaries, etc. (Not ours.) It's like he doesn't retain those memories at all.
happy stillmore Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 My favorite thing about xMM was the ability to talk about anything. I mean anything. We had some far-out conversations as we were both kinda out-of-the-box thinkers. We both made each other laugh. Sense of humor is huge with me. I honestly would rather be with someone who made me laugh rather than one who is miserable but good in bed. Least favorite thing was he seemed scattered when it comes to details, i.e. schedules. He was not a planner. He was a passive participant in his life. It is obvious how that could be a problem for our relationship. While he seemed young at heart (which can be fun and silly), he had the mindset of a child (not so fun and was frustrating). I'm truly not saying that to insult. It really is what his life is like with his wife doing everything for him and inability to make grown up choices. He allowed others (me & BS) to make the decisions for him. 1
LilGirlandOW Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Least favorite things: Used to be that he was married, we thoroughly dealt with that issue tonight so I'd have to say, some of his thoughts on career direction. Favorite things: Our connection we share in every aspect from humor to sex. His honesty (to me anyways) I dont get the double talk or future faking. What I had myself convinced was possibly future faking was my inability to be honest with him about how I was feeling and the direction of our relationship. Also how he would drop everything, aside from his children (cause he is an amazing dad), to be there in some way if I need him. His voice is freaking sexy as hell too.
Got it Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 I will give as my MM and then now as my husband. MM/Favorite: Everything. I loved his laugh, his smile, the look in his eye when he walked in the door, how fiery he was at work, as a father, the way he would wrap me up in his arms. MM/Least Favorite: that he was married. As my husband/Favorite: His laugh, his smile, how teared he got during our vows, how he melts when I tell him he is my best friend, he is proactive on home improvement projects, his sense of style, his optimism on winning the lottery , his willingness to work on us, his love of life. His ability to laugh at himself. His complete melting over the pets and kids. As my husband/least Favorite: purchasing of big ticket items without always thinking things through, not being innately financially frugal (which he will do but it does sometimes take me saying take a night and think it through), his slight hypocrisy on his mantrums (giving me crap about my tantrums but having a fit over his frustration with his cooking of chicken ) His fiery personality (something that I love and also get frustrated with), his ability to challenge me. Will sometimes hit below the belt in a fight. That just pushes my buttons. He has gotten better about that.
MissBee Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 (edited) Least favorite things: Used to be that he was married, we thoroughly dealt with that issue tonight so I'd have to say, some of his thoughts on career direction. Favorite things: Our connection we share in every aspect from humor to sex. His honesty (to me anyways) I dont get the double talk or future faking. What I had myself convinced was possibly future faking was my inability to be honest with him about how I was feeling and the direction of our relationship. Also how he would drop everything, aside from his children (cause he is an amazing dad), to be there in some way if I need him. His voice is freaking sexy as hell too. Hmm what do you mean? Did he decide to get a divorce tonight? For me: Least favorites at the time: that he was in a relationship and seemed comfortable living a double life, that really bothered me, because I wanted to believe his conscience bothered him, but it didn't seem to and I wasn't sure how to reconcile that, as that ideally isn't the kind of person I wanted to be with and love. I hated his lax attitude about being proactive about stuff involving our relationship (this was actually more evident when we had a chance to have an open R and one main reason it didn't work out). I also hated that he spent a lot of time solving his friends' problems but didn't seem to put that much effort into his own. Favorites at the time: I enjoyed our ease of communication and ease to just be. We were often on the same wavelength and it wasn't forced. I adored his sense of humor and his concern for me and how he kept abreast of my life's goings on. He's an excellent father who would go to the moon and back for his child. I loved his drive and ambition in terms of his career and the fact that he made it a priority to give back and help his community and spent lots of time and manpower volunteering and working with youth. Edited September 22, 2013 by MissBee 2
cocorico Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Favourite: his loving, caring, strong, dependable nature. Least favourite: the knight in shining armour thing, because it led to his marrying a psycho first time around. 1
MaggieM Posted September 28, 2013 Posted September 28, 2013 Really needed to clean his dirty filthy car. It wasn't for the lack of funds. Dislike slop.
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