hopefulfaerie Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 So, I broke NC with a text that simply said "Hey, thought of you today" Didn't tell him who I was or anything. He immediately replied with some good news he received about his unemployment benefits. We exchanged a few more texts and calls. He apologized for "falling off the face of the earth" We have talked or texted almost daily since. It's been about a week. Ever since then I feel like EVERY text and call could be the last and he could disappear all over again. Yesterday he called and I was strong enough to ignore it. This morning I switched cell phone carriers because my old one couldn't block text and calls. Had to purchase the new carriers phone and switching services costs 200.00!! Couldn't afford it but did it anyway. I am DETERMINED to go NC forever!! I have him blocked on the new phone and I will never know when he calls or texts again. They say it takes about 24 hours because I kept my same phone number. She also said it could take as little as 6 hours. When I receive a text to my new phone saying service switching is complete I will be home free!!!!! I'm thinking of destroying my old phone even though I don't have service to my new one yet......I'm just so scared he may call or text before the switch and I'm feeling so good right now. I don't ever want to feel like I have these past 3 months of getting over him. Should I destroy the old one and wait for the new one (that he is blocked from) Has anyone ever gone to such lengths for their sanity?????
loversquarrel Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Sorry. You don't deserve a pat on the back for what you did. Your actions were immature and petty. You were the one who initiated contact, yet you're acting like he did. You aren't the victim here. 1
petall Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Has he even brought up the past since you started talking again? Not easy being in your position, wanting and hoping but scared he could do the rejecting again. Funny one, I really think there's no straight answer. I know everyone always advocates strict NC but as NC has already been broken here, it may not be bad to have a conversation IF you read from his mannerisms he's positive about doing this. Let him lead though. Be cool about how you project yourself. If nothing else, it will give the closure you need.
send_me_flowers Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 nope and not to sound harsh but you really sound like a jerk. was that your way of getting back at him for falling off the face of the earth. two wrongs never make a right!! and you are just as bad as him! at least he left you alone to heal. what you done is silly i agree with the post above. get over yourself woman and gain some self respect and dignty. feel very embrassed for you because you have came across foolish remember what goes around comes back at ya!!
Eddie007 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 So you break NC after 3 months just so you can spend $200 you say you didn't have to get a new phone strictly for the purpose of blocking his number? What was the point on contacting him if you don't want to hear from him? What grade are you in?
Sparkle304 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hmm, I wondered what happened to you. I haven't seen you post anything for a bit. I assumed (correctly I guess) that you'd made contact with your ex. Well, it seems that making contact did have a positive impact. I think you now more clearly realize that you can't return to that relationship because he broke your trust and it's truly over. Is it possible that you may actually feel stronger for breaking no contact?
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 The issue isnt with your phone, or even with him. It's with you. In time, you will likely reactivate the old phone with anticipation he WILL contact you. Addictive cycle. It only ends when the whirling derbish in your head ends. Been there, done that. I use 12 step groups for support. I hope you find some help too.
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