Author artdet Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 (edited) If you are observant, there are so many signs. He's logged on/active all the time in his chat/email/video-chat account. Sometimes he is really slow when chatting to you, meaning he's chatting to multiple people. He seldom calls you by your real name but uses honey sweetheart whatever. A lot of the things he says just seems too smooth and rehearsed. I think women usually have good instincts with these kind of suspicious behavior in a man. When I sensed something was wrong, I tricked him and told him I'm ok with an open relationship, so he told me all his activities. Below is a good read on Colonel Saleh. He is the extreme but I think every MM looking to have an affair has some Colonel Saleh in him, probably because a lot of affairs are carried out in emails and chats nowadays. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200307/online-dating-not-just-trend Edited September 23, 2013 by artdet
missy268 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 No we met at work funny thing is i associated men online as looking for somebody to cheat with my ex AP wasn't interested in any kind of social media/chat sites etc he did all his playing offline, i dread to think how but there you go! i don't want to think about it.
imbetteroff Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 lifelesson and eagalew, your stories and MM sound alot like mine, maybe we were seeing the same man. I would love to talk some more with you guys.
Pastypop Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Your experience sounds like mine. My MM wanted a threesome and I didn't think he was worthy. Without my knowledge he created a profile on some nasty site. He told everyone he met that it was me and sent my picture to a bunch of people. When I found out, I contacted the company and got the profile shut down. Several people contacted me via IM and I crossed referenced them to his Facebook account. I also discovered that he had created other accounts with just himself on the profile (thank goodness) to homosexual, bondage and some other disgusting sites. Out of curiosity, I contacted him anonymously and acted like a new prospect. He told me about having sex during his lunch break in his office while his wife pregnant, the scores of women he's screwed at her house, his experience's with other men and a whole host of other things. I also, found out what he thought of me. Since he assumed he was talking to his next prospect, he told the truth. It makes my blood boil. If you ever want to find out what you really meant to your MM contact him as a new prospect. After this horrid experience, I want nothing to do with men anymore. I cannot for the life of me fathom how his wife has remained in the dark for so long. He has been doing this to her for at least 7 years. He finds a new lady, keeps her around for 2-3 months then off to the next one. I have a huge file on this guy and if it wouldn't get back to me, I would send to her, his employers, family and his neighbors.
Author artdet Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 I cannot for the life of me fathom how his wife has remained in the dark for so long. He has been doing this to her for at least 7 years. He finds a new lady, keeps her around for 2-3 months then off to the next one. I have a huge file on this guy and if it wouldn't get back to me, I would send to her, his employers, family and his neighbors. Sounds like a horror story. The MM I met also suggested threesome. I think in this kind of circumstances, it is good to let the wife know. She is the one that will have continuous sex with this man and faces the biggest risk of all kinds of STDs. If she knows, she has a choice to not have sex with him. If you are worried about being tracked down, go to a local library or go to any Starbucks with free wifi, set up an account there and do all your forwarding of his dirty business there. No one would ever know it's you.
Author artdet Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 An affair is an affair is an affair, it is a destructive relationship involving wanting someone you cannot have, it doesn't matter how/where/why you met or if you carry it out with love/lust/uncontrollable passion. I do agree that online MMs(and sometimes OW but less so) are predatory, not because MMs are worse online, but that the online environment encourages them to be predatory to multiple people. But MMs in offline affairs can also be predatory, just look at all the broken hearted OWs on this forum. A lot of women don't see that, they always think they are 'the one' for the MM. That was hardly ever true IMHO.
Pastypop Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 I'm not saying anything to wife right now as our children are in the same after school activity. I feel pretty safe in this situation as a lot of his friends and neighbors go here too! He will get busted one day and the poor girl he is with at the time will take the blunt of it. I'm sure he will tell the wife that this was the only one and she raped him. There is no way he would ever want his wife to know the convenience of walking up to someone who could give her loads of information at a child's activity. He would die first instead of letting his wife, friends, family and his rich neighbors know who he really is. He should really man up and give her a divorce but, he doesn't want to let go of the status, fancy house and money she earns. He is nothing but a loser. It a shame that he had kids and one of them is a girl. Poor, poor lady!!
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