lostatm Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hi everyone. I have posted on here before and it really helps so thanks to everyone who reply. I went into a lot of detail on my previous thread but I have a few questions I am going to ask separately. Firstly, I have found out from looking at his facebook account (I know it's being nosey but I managed to guess his password) that what I was seeing was not everything that was actually on his profile. He had the setting on his privacy so that if he was tagged in a post or photo, nobody else could see it? There were lots of photos of him and his wife together and some statuses that he was tagged in detailing things they were doing together. My problem is that we became friends on facebook in February when we were completely platonic friends at work, I was actually dating someone at the time and had not even thought about my feelings towards this man. I have spoken to my counsellor about this and she said that the only reason he would have deliberately hidden this information from me is because he was 'setting' me up for an affair, or trying to manipulate me in some way. I feel that this is just another stab in the back for a relationship which I deemed was NOT an affair and as completely honest. I guess I just wanted some other peoples thoughts on this - why hide so much information? If we were friends at the time why would he not have wanted me to see this information of them together? Was he 'grooming' me?
MissBee Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hi everyone. I have posted on here before and it really helps so thanks to everyone who reply. I went into a lot of detail on my previous thread but I have a few questions I am going to ask separately. Firstly, I have found out from looking at his facebook account (I know it's being nosey but I managed to guess his password) that what I was seeing was not everything that was actually on his profile. He had the setting on his privacy so that if he was tagged in a post or photo, nobody else could see it? There were lots of photos of him and his wife together and some statuses that he was tagged in detailing things they were doing together. My problem is that we became friends on facebook in February when we were completely platonic friends at work, I was actually dating someone at the time and had not even thought about my feelings towards this man. I have spoken to my counsellor about this and she said that the only reason he would have deliberately hidden this information from me is because he was 'setting' me up for an affair, or trying to manipulate me in some way. I feel that this is just another stab in the back for a relationship which I deemed was NOT an affair and as completely honest. I guess I just wanted some other peoples thoughts on this - why hide so much information? If we were friends at the time why would he not have wanted me to see this information of them together? Was he 'grooming' me? Quite possibly... You don't believe your counselor? I think his/her theory is probably spot on. What else could it be why he'd do that? I don't remember your back story, did he lie about being married?
whatatangledweb Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Just as FYI, what you did is not being nosey, it is hacking. Please don't do that as you can get in alot of trouble. I have my facebook set up so that photos I am tagged in only I can see. I have people on my page that are work friends and not all photos are work friendly or family friendly (such as mom or dad) so I have blocked .
waytogo Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hi everyone. I have posted on here before and it really helps so thanks to everyone who reply. I went into a lot of detail on my previous thread but I have a few questions I am going to ask separately. Firstly, I have found out from looking at his facebook account (I know it's being nosey but I managed to guess his password) that what I was seeing was not everything that was actually on his profile. He had the setting on his privacy so that if he was tagged in a post or photo, nobody else could see it? There were lots of photos of him and his wife together and some statuses that he was tagged in detailing things they were doing together. My problem is that we became friends on facebook in February when we were completely platonic friends at work, I was actually dating someone at the time and had not even thought about my feelings towards this man. I have spoken to my counsellor about this and she said that the only reason he would have deliberately hidden this information from me is because he was 'setting' me up for an affair, or trying to manipulate me in some way. I feel that this is just another stab in the back for a relationship which I deemed was NOT an affair and as completely honest. I guess I just wanted some other peoples thoughts on this - why hide so much information? If we were friends at the time why would he not have wanted me to see this information of them together? Was he 'grooming' me? I apologize Lost, I don't know the backstory. May I ask why you would be concerned enough to look at his FB page at all, much less hack it, while having a R of your own?
randomwoman Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 maybe he had you on a list with several people? I'd only assume something was going on if you were the only one he was hiding things from. On facebook, it is pretty common practice to hide some items from coworkers.
sweet_pea Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I hope you know that hacking into his Facebook, whether he was hiding things from you or not, is completely wrong. Not nosey, but wrong. 1
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