ConcreteHeart Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 It's has been almost two weeks since I ended things with the MM. Today I have to go to a work function and I am terribly nervous that he will be there. It is a rather formal affair with city dignitaries which is right up him Image conscious alley. I have to attend and I pray that he has plans with his family instead. But just in case I'm going to make sure I look amazing! Haha. How to respond if he approaches me is my biggest concern. I know I will be ultra professional. But I just don't want him to read anything in my eyes. We used to say a lot to each other just by looking at one another. Sigh.... Holding my breath, wish me luck.
yellowmaverick Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 If he approaches you, walk away. Don't engage. Think about the progress that you have made. And BTW, "look amazing" for YOU, not for him. 1
tiernan Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Don't show him you are broken hearted. Carry on as usual, let him think you are done with him. If he wants to talk just say - "sorry, have to run, some other time maybe" and start talking to someone else. You can do it!
Author ConcreteHeart Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 So true Yellow. Looking good for me is the right mindset. Turn and walk...got it!
BruisedBNBroken Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 You can do this!!!! I just went through a similar thing a few days ago. I had an out of town work convention where there was a big possibility that I would run into xAP. I kept reading and rereading my earlier posts here on LS to remind myself how absolutely miserable I feel when I see him or give in to him. I'm happy to say he called, texted and emailed the entire first day wanting to get together and I ignored every one. I didn't run into him and on the last night I heard he was on his way to a party I was at so I said I was tired and went back to my hotel. I won't lie, it was not easy. It was torture not responding and knowing he was literally across the street from me, but I knew it just wouldn't be worth it in the end. You've come so far in only 2 weeks. Engaging with him will put you right back to square one. Look amazing, be confident, and if he approaches you, make any and every excuse to walk away. Bathroom, drink refill, phone ringing, feet hurt, have them all handy. And you will feel so great when you walk out of there with your dignity in tact!! Good luck, let us know what happens. 2
MissBee Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 It's has been almost two weeks since I ended things with the MM. Today I have to go to a work function and I am terribly nervous that he will be there. It is a rather formal affair with city dignitaries which is right up him Image conscious alley. I have to attend and I pray that he has plans with his family instead. But just in case I'm going to make sure I look amazing! Haha. How to respond if he approaches me is my biggest concern. I know I will be ultra professional. But I just don't want him to read anything in my eyes. We used to say a lot to each other just by looking at one another. Sigh.... Holding my breath, wish me luck. Good luck! You'll be fine as long as you're ultra professional. It doesn't matter what he reads in your eyes, as if you don't act on it, then he can read away! Getting over someone isn't magic. Just like being married/committed doesn't stop attractions from happening; what matters is what you do with those feelings or rather, DON'T do lol.
randomwoman Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Good luck to you. I hope he is not there. It's always something I cringe about as well. I hate not knowing when I may run into him in professional settings. There's a piece of me that hopes to but most of me never wants to see him again. Main thing, look amazing!
Author ConcreteHeart Posted September 22, 2013 Author Posted September 22, 2013 No sighting...dodged a bullet for sure! 2
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