lizzy31291 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 (edited) ****NEEDS ADVICE*** Hi all, some of you may have seen my other posts "5+ year relationship..." Lets just say it has been 73 days, I just counted to see how long, I am not keeping track! I have been ten times better since the breakup. I am back in college living at my dorm, really busy with school. I actually started talking to a lot of guys. I really felt great about myself and I rarely thought of my ex. I was dumped for those that did not read my original post. My ex and I had zero contact. I was at work last Saturday and my phone vibrates and I see it says his name and that he added my on facebook. Originally he deleted me as a friend the day after the break up. I have not accepted the request, I think I will just let it sit until I have a gut feeling about denying it, or accepting it. I also noticed that there is a thing on facebook that you can follow someone and get updates on their statuses and I noticed he was following me, which I thought was strange. The thing is I had put my privacy settings to public after the breakup because I knew even if he deleted me he would still search my name and I wanted him to see I was doing great without him. I only switched it to private after I saw he was following me. I just am so confused as to why he added me? Please give me some advice. I feel that confused feeling again after this, its like he knew I was doing fine. Edited September 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
BC1980 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 He's out of the post breakup honeymoon phase and is curious. I think many dumpers go through a post breakup phase where it seems nice before reality sets in that their ex is not there anymore. He is only curious right now. Don't accept the request. It will really make him more curious if you deny it, so beat him at his own game. Also, it just sets you back to accept the friend request. He should have no place in your life if you are to move on. He forfeits any rights to getting to see how you are doing. 2
TaraMaiden Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Absolutely what BC1980 said. he's fishing. Curious. Wants to see if you'll take the bait. Wants to see if he still has a 'hold' on you. There's no romantic interest there, no desire to get you back, no agenda to reconcile. It's all a silly game in his head to reel you in, winch you up and keep you dangling. Ignore, deny, delete, block and let him fester. 1
Author lizzy31291 Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Thank you both for the great advice. I just deleted the request!
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