Getting the response in online dating by being engaging

[irc333]

I was wondering, would one think that that content of your introductory email could probably outweigh what you've written in your profile?

 

I'm debating around where one should keep whatever the content is in your dating profile a bit on the general side, with JUST enough information about yourself to get by and then some.

 

But, what about your introductory email to the person where you actually point out things in their profile that you've noticed.

 

Like if someone likes to go hiking or kayaking, to say to them, "Oh, I enjoy Fort Wilderness State Park, I went on a 10-mile hike there, and the swallows migrate there during the fall...have you ever been there?"

 

Speak of local venues in regards to what particular interests they've listed. If they are a foodie, and if the profile mentions a certain part of town in which they live, point out a independently owned restaurant venue that you think is a good place to eat and talk about it.

 

Do you find this helps in your response rate? It does SOMETIMES, but it's rarely, but it's better than what you've been doing, too.

 

Basically, it's an attempt to "bait" them into responding. (for a lack of a better word).

 

I have even attempted to garner tips from women depending on what interests they like, but with no response.

 

It kind of makes me wonder why a woman wouldn't even respond to a well done, personally identifiable email.

[Imajerk17]

I don't think I would call that "being engaging". It sounds to me instead to be neuter chit-chat which isn't the goal. You're not there to play travel guide or restaurant critic, you are instead intending to convey interest in *her* that is non-creepy and fun.

 

Anything noteworthy about *her* you can comment on?

Edited September 21, 2013 by Imajerk17

[piggyoink]

its like looking for a job. no matter how boring it is, you have to write a different cover letter for each job you apply to. l

[Eternal Sunshine]

Your pictures and stats are more important then your first message. I also agree that making your profile generic is a mistake.

 

As long as your first message is not "hey" or "wanna hook up" you are good.

[heartshaped]

I don't know if I've ever commented on any of your threads, but I lurk a lot on them.

 

My thing with you irc is that you over think everything. Try to relax and be yourself. I think that would go a long way with you and women.

 

As a woman that has utilized OLD, if the profile is generic I'm less likely to respond. If the first message doesn't garner my interest, but the profile does, I might respond anyways just to learn more about you.