staryeyes Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I am having a hard time breathing my chest hurts and I just can't stop crying why does it all have to hurt so much? He texted me a bit today about what's going on with the baby. That he's going to make plans to visit him. And then bam 3:13 all communication stopped. I realized its because his wife must have gotten home. We used to be in communication. From the moment we woke up till the moment we wnt to sleep now its so hard. She found out about our A this past Monday, all hell hit the fan. What happened to all the we will be ok, you will always have me I will never leave. Now I am doing this alone fighting for my son in the NICU and not having him by my side. I miss him so much I can't breath why does it hurt so much doesn't it hurt him
whichwayisup Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 He may have meant what he said during those times but obviously things have changed. He had the chance to totally come clean on D-Day yet he chose to end things with you and stay with his wife. Texting 24/7 and being in that much contact is unhealthy and codependent. Not good for you because now you're having total withdrawal and it's killing you inside. I think you do need to seek counseling, maybe even go on meds to help calm your nerves and control the anxiety you're feeling. Try your best to focus on your baby and don't let this ruin you. The guy is a scumbag and he has no balls. He led you on selfishly and now you're hurting. 3
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Aside from the above great advice, I suggest trying a chewable GABA supplement, its found in vitamin store, it has an amazing calming effect. I can't imagine the pain your going through during what should be one of the best times of your life, the birth of your son, try to enjoy your new bundle, worry about MM later when your both doing well and home. Your little one needs him momma right now Again, try the GABA 1
yellowmaverick Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I am having a hard time breathing my chest hurts and I just can't stop crying why does it all have to hurt so much? He texted me a bit today about what's going on with the baby. That he's going to make plans to visit him. And then bam 3:13 all communication stopped. I realized its because his wife must have gotten home. We used to be in communication. From the moment we woke up till the moment we wnt to sleep now its so hard. She found out about our A this past Monday, all hell hit the fan. What happened to all the we will be ok, you will always have me I will never leave. Now I am doing this alone fighting for my son in the NICU and not having him by my side. I miss him so much I can't breath why does it hurt so much doesn't it hurt him Try to focus on your son right now. He needs you and deserves your full attention, not the MM. I hope your little guy will be okay.
ConcreteHeart Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Pierre, your honesty is always so refreshing...thank you.
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hope today's a better day for you xoxo Been thinking about you nd your little guy:love:
legalgirl Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Praying for you and your baby. Hang in there!!!! 1
scatterd Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 My prayers go out to you and your son. I am sorry you are hurting. Your MM has to lay low because his wife is watching him. He will call when he can get away from her. Try to focus on your son he needs you.
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 yes focus on your son. If the birth of your new miracle isnt enough to make him leave, he probably never will. Focus on you and your son, get healthy then seek MM for support.
underwater2010 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Focus on your son and then file for child support. You may not get exactly what you want which is your MM, but at least you and your child will be supported. I am so sorry that you have ended up in the place. My prayers for your precious baby!!!
waytogo Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I think the OM confessed the affair to his wife. This confession made him look like a better man in front of his wife. At the same time his wife will provide OM support with regard to the mess he created by getting OW pregnant. I am almost certain OM threw the OW under the bus and is now playing the victim role with his wife. OM likely said he was seduced and that OW tricked him into pregnancy after having sex only once when he was drunk. This is standard with these so-called men. This time I respectfully agree with you
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