MissingHerBad Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 I know I post alot on here, but I have alot of questions. I have met a new girl. Very nice girl, one I can see myself with. I need to be very careful and neurter what might be a great realationship because I dont want it to be a rebound. I am really ready to see new people how ever I still have these lingering feeling that I think my ex just doesnt understand. She is already seeing someone new and I accept the fact that we are over. I have no more tears to cry but I still think about her alll the time. I want to right her a short letter underlying how I had trully felt with her and clearing the air on my behalf. I feel that this is the only that I will be able to realease this as I dont talk to her on the phone. One week shes having sex with me, next week shes out with other friends...gone. I feel like I deserve more then that...she said it was because she finally decided I wasnt the wasnt the one for her and she wasnt the one for me, which is bull****. She has blamed so much on me almost playing me as a sucker. I want to move on but I also want to set her straight one last time.....Is this a good idea? Do I have other options?
Queen B Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 Sounds like this girl has let you go and there's nothing you can do about it. you can't MAKE people understand that don't really care, I learned that one the hard way and realised that I wasted a lot of good time trying to make a guy understand that in his heart didn't love me at all.. I would write the letter explaining your feelings, but I wouldn't send to her, it won't do any good, instead I'd keep it and maybe I'd burn it little "letting go" ceremony...or maybe I'd keep it and read it in a year...and realise that yes, it was tough, but it wasn't the end of the world... Also if you are with a new girl and still think all the time about the old one that's not fair...it's leading someone on and you seem to know how that feels...
NatoPMT Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 sorry i dont know your story fully, but from what you have written here, its pretty clear you arent ready to get involved with someone else. have you been intimate with the new girl yet? you really should hold back on anything other than friends until your feelings for you ex are much much duller than they are right now. Dont treat this new girl badly, how many posts are on LS from people who's SO's are still hung up on their ex's? From people who's SO's wont commit because they were hurt in the past? Who's SO's behave oddly or distant? That S.O. is you. Dont create another LS broken hearted poster. I want to move on but I also want to set her straight one last time.....Is this a good idea? dont bother, if you need to move on you dont need her in the picture at all to do that - why create more memories of pain and more situations where you pour salt on the sore? Do I have other options? Yes, either move on, or let some more time pass & wait until you are ready to do that.
Weird Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Go ahead and write the letter but don't expect a reply or her to react in a certain way. Chances are she wont reply or she will but will take shots at you in an immature way. Do it if the letter will clear your mind of this stuff. Personally, i would write it, save it and then read it whenever all this starts toe at away again. You may see that just writing down your thoughts is what eases your mind rather than her reading it all. I also would not start seeing that new girl yet if I were you. Well, maybe hang out with her but tell her you need to take it slow for a little bit. If you are honest with her from the start then I think it will be better for both of you. BTW I did the letter stuff with my ex when we first broke up and that is where I get my feelings of the subject from.
alphamale Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 You write and send that ltr and you will look like a big idiot. You need to find this woman and physically beat her to within an inch of her life. No actually the beating may be a bit rash but you should respect y ourself and keep your dignity. The only way you can do this is to never talk or contact her again.
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 I found out even more lastnight. Apparently she has always been likes this and likes guys that will pamper. I also found out that she was going out with this guy no later then 2 weeks after we broke up. It is certainly some sort of rebound as she was still emailing me, missing me, and loving me. I truly just want these issues to go away. I think she is better then that but who knows. As for the new girl she is really nice and I told her that I want to take it slow. Im going to devise a letter, very short, very breif. If I send it it will go through the snail mail. I dont want any reply whatsoever...I just want her to no once and for all. Really I have nothing to loose because Im not looking for anything and she has already taken as much dignity from me as possible. But I would like to clear my thoughts and move on if she is a rich bitch, dirty girl or a saint. Who knows anymore!
Weird Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Well, if you do not care if she replies or not then go for it. Just realize she may repl and try and trash you and if you are cool with that and it won't make you mad then I don't see any reason not to send it if it is going to help ease your mind. All I know is don't start a thread here in like 1-2 weeks time saying your ex never replied to your letter.
Author MissingHerBad Posted November 24, 2004 Author Posted November 24, 2004 No doubt. But trust me she wont reply
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