Any "Others" scared of the BS?

[HopingAgain]

WTHF I suppose you forgot to point out how illogical and irrational infidelity is to begin with. You are attempting to apply reason to scenarios where reason has long since left the building. Your dismissive attitude towards those who are BSs seems to indicate that you think cheating is not that big of a deal and that the responses to it are somehow easily controlled. I'm assuming you've never had a Dday with your own MM and if you're lucky enough to have never been cheated on you really don't know what you're talking about.

[AlwaysGrowing]

WTHF...I guess for many its the double standard that ap deal in.

 

They themselves...openly admit through words and actions....that they have zero control over their emotions. They act in hurtful ways towards others. Then expect those they hurt to control their emotions...not act on them.

[Got it]

And just like divorce is the recommended suggestion for those that have chosen an affair, so is the same for the BS.

 

There is no justification for murder. Sorry but that isn't being dismissive about the pain of the BS just like saying no matter how bad the marriage, an affair is never an excuse/acceptable action.

[thefooloftheyear]

And just like divorce is the recommended suggestion for those that have chosen an affair, so is the same for the BS.

 

There is no justification for murder. Sorry but that isn't being dismissive about the pain of the BS just like saying no matter how bad the marriage, an affair is never an excuse/acceptable action.

 

 

 

About a month ago, I was awoken at 3AM by some drunken fool of a woman who crashed into the telephone pole, drove up on my property, tore up all the shrubbery, went General Lee across my yard, and when I ran outside, nearly ran me down.. By the time I gathered myself to give chase, she was gone. Cops got her a few hours later...What would I have done if I caught her? I dont know, but probably something irrational..

 

Kinda like the same reaction(or perhaps worse), someone(BS) might have if a random woman confronted her to inform her that she was fcking her husband for the last 3 years...

 

Some might be composed....many wont...

 

Point is to think someone is going to react in a rational or lawful manner after such devastating news is crazy..If they didnt get hysterical, that I would almost think is abnormal..

 

TFY

Edited September 23, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[cocorico]

 

An A is unethical in and of itself and is the FIRST offense, so once you step into that arena, expect anything!

 

Interesting notion - so the A essentially wipes clean any history of past offences committed by the BS, however severe these might have been? I'm not sure most WS would agree with that, or even most divorce judges, but I guess if one holds that kind of view, exonerating the BS of any other breach of the marital contract, complete with instant beatification if not sanctification upon infidelity, then I guess it also exonerates them of anything they might do afterward.

[harrybrown]

So my sister-in-law had an affair.

 

Her AP threatened to kill my brother. So now my brother has purchased guns and is prepared to defend himself.

 

When you get with a cheater, you do not know if they are crazy or not, but now sis-in-law has created a hell in her home.

[Got it]

Funny how some ow expect the bw to have self control yet they have shown that they themselves have none.

 

Gotta love a double standard

 

Who says that some OW expect the BW to have self control? I don't see anyone saying that. What people, myself are arguing is whether or not it justifies the resulting actions.

 

You can't say that AP have no legitimate reasons for having an affair and any discussion of said reasons is just excuses, justification and blame shifting and then try and take the same line of logic and say that it is justified.

 

That is like saying that if one spouse cheats the other spouse is justified to have an affair as well. Great, my husband then is free and clear and shouldn't feel any guilt or repercussions because he cheated on his ex wife because she cheated first! Who wants to talk to her and let her know? That is definitely one conversation I would love to hear the outcome. My best advice is duck!

[imbetteroff]

Nope, I'm not afraid of her. I apologized to his ex-wife since I knew he was married when our affair started, he told me he was in an open relationship but I later found out that he lied.

I did not apologize to his fiancé since he lied to me, I had no idea she existed, I had no idea he was dating someone.

I explained to her that he never mentioned her and told me he was moving in with a "room mate" when in fact he was moving in with her.

If his fiancé whom I believe is now his new wife wants to confront me, then I'm waiting, I'm not afraid.

[William]

Since both moderators have now visited this thread and deleted or edited 18 postings, I'm going to close this pending conference regarding the thread continuing. The alternative is handing out infractions so we'll confer and decide next steps. For those who remained topical and civil, we thank you for your contributions.