KentuckyGent Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Here I am alone and all I can think of is her with her new love interest. I can't eat, can't sleep, can't work. The pain doesn't stop. Hard as I try I can't take control of my life.
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Awwwe ((Hugs)) honey I'm sorry you're hurting, I'm alone tonight too, if you were a few hours more north I'd invite you for a drink! Bahh hopefully something good is on TV?
Author KentuckyGent Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Well here's a virtual toast to you. Hell I came close to entering myself into a co-dependence rehab center today. But the price tag was too steep. Something is wrong with me holding onto these feelings for someone who is so selfish and tormenting.
LilGirlandOW Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Yes! A virtual cheers is in order! your wound is still very fresh, you're not alone (in the virtual sense) Cheers Buddy! 1
Goodbye Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Here I am alone and all I can think of is her with her new love interest. I can't eat, can't sleep, can't work. The pain doesn't stop. Hard as I try I can't take control of my life. Her new love interest? I thought she was married and not leaving her H. Does she have a new AP?
randomwoman Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I know how you feel. Do you have a career to concentrate on? Maybe you should take up a new sport. I feel the same as you but the only real solution is to occupy your mind with something else. Also, you never know if she is very happy. Just try to imagine that she is as bored as you are,I try that trick too. I'm feeling a little better. The day I hate the most is Sunday nights, depression sinks in right around 7pm for some odd reason. Hang in there.
browneyed Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hang in there it does get easier. Remember to be kind to yourself. You have to allow yourself to feel what you feel in order to get over it, don't beat yourself up about it.
Author KentuckyGent Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Her new love interest? I thought she was married and not leaving her H. Does she have a new AP? No she randomly called in August having moved out (been kicked out). Pops up every couple of weeks and then this last time let me know she has been seeing someone.
browneyed Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I don't think I'd handle that well either. Why did she tell you that? Obviously that relationship isn't going all that well if she's contacting you. If she was blissfully happy she wouldn't think about you. 1
Author KentuckyGent Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 No I really think she gets off on torturing me and playing mind games.
lilmisscantbewrong Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Asshat - that's all I have to say. Hang in there.
RickFox Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 when you get tired of it all and I mean tired of feeling like crap you will stop caring and begin to move forward. 2
whichwayisup Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 No I really think she gets off on torturing me and playing mind games. I know you're hurting but I hope soon you find that anger that is probably inside of you as well so you can tell her to go F herself and to never contact you again. Then change your number, your email address and cut her not only out of your life on ALL levels, but in your heart as well. This woman is a b.itch and not worth your tears. Her husband woke up and kicked her out, so now it's time for to work really hard to push yourself to not be sad and see that you're better off without her. I hope in time you see and believe this. 2
happy stillmore Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 (edited) She will never be happy. Nobody can make her happy. Not even you! So please don't think you or your immense "love" can fix her. Try to feel sorry for her and any future mate of hers. You need to get out of your small town and go on a trip. Even if it is a day trip. You need to do something to make youl feel alive. It sounds to me that you have too much time on your hands to dwell on her. You need to do things to keep your mind busy. Go online and do a search of codependence anonymous (CODA). You can find a local group.You are giving the control of your life to someone who is not even aware of it. You are ALWAYS IN CONTROL OF YOU AND YOUR LIFE! You control how you are going to react to every situation. Sure, she screwed you but you are screwing yourself now. Take pride in knowing you love yourself sooo much that you are permitting yourself to move on. You are the captain of your ship. Right now, you are drifting about with no-one at the wheel. No wonder you feel lost. She isn't going to come and save you from yourself. Grab the wheel! Edited September 21, 2013 by happy stillmore 1
legalgirl Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I totally understand. I went to a baseball game with my son. I should've been happy, but instead saw all the happy couples and wondered why it couldn't be me!!!! 1
Goodbye Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 No she randomly called in August having moved out (been kicked out). Pops up every couple of weeks and then this last time let me know she has been seeing someone. KG, You need to take some serious measures to get over this woman. Hope you are feeling better.
Author KentuckyGent Posted September 22, 2013 Author Posted September 22, 2013 I know and I have no idea what those measures are.
cat Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Have you thought of antidepressants in the short term?They can take the edge off. And, I know I got slapped down by a male poster on here but consider therapy. Sometimes it's the "ballsiest" thing you can do. I'm sure we'd all be there for you if we lived in Kentucky. I'm only one state away! Sending good vibes from Ohio. 1
Speakingofwhich Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Have you thought of antidepressants in the short term?They can take the edge off. And, I know I got slapped down by a male poster on here but consider therapy. Sometimes it's the "ballsiest" thing you can do. I'm sure we'd all be there for you if we lived in Kentucky. I'm only one state away! Sending good vibes from Ohio. Is it possible for you to expand your work into some avenues that may provide excitement for you? That is a great way to work out one's emotions.
Author KentuckyGent Posted September 22, 2013 Author Posted September 22, 2013 Have you thought of antidepressants in the short term?They can take the edge off. And, I know I got slapped down by a male poster on here but consider therapy. Sometimes it's the "ballsiest" thing you can do. I'm sure we'd all be there for you if we lived in Kentucky. I'm only one state away! Sending good vibes from Ohio. Already take one and go to therapy. I blocked her #. . . at least for now. Don't think she would contact me again anyway, but I did block it. I feel empowered one minute, helpless the next. The worst part is the realization that she was likely cheating on me while she was cheating with me.
happy stillmore Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 (edited) The fact that she cheated on you while cheating with you gives you all of the reason needed to be glad she isn't in your life. Who needs that crap? What is something that you always wanted to do? Is there somewhere you always wanted to visit? One your next day off, get in a car and just drive. Enjoy the changing leaves this Fall. Drive somewhere you never visited before. Make it an adventure. Learn something new while in this trip. Maybe even visit a small museum. Expand you world. Expand your mind. Heck, bring a book and pack a lunch. Park your car and eat your lunch while enjoying a view you don't get to see everyday. Start living your life! By the way, good vibes from Pennsylvania Edited September 22, 2013 by happy stillmore
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