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can an ex bf easily forget about you, 6 weeks no contact, when they have left you for another girl, im not grasping at straws here im just curious as to what people think :)

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Yes. He has someone to focus his energy on. It doesn't mean he never thinks of you, but if there's someone else then he's likely only thinking of future plans with her and his friends. The dumper is often done long before the BU event. He's already checked out. But it's normal to want him to care about you. The hard truth is accepting that he doesn't or he would contact you.

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Once they have their heart ripped out from their chest still start thinking about you again.

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Yes. He has someone to focus his energy on. It doesn't mean he never thinks of you, but if there's someone else then he's likely only thinking of future plans with her and his friends. The dumper is often done long before the BU event. He's already checked out. But it's normal to want him to care about you. The hard truth is accepting that he doesn't or he would contact you.

 

 

it was for other peoples options really you know today is the first day i have felt good :bunny:

 

i am hurt but looking forward thank you for your reply much appericated :)

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Once they have their heart ripped out from their chest still start thinking about you again.

 

maybe but than we wont give a toss. is this your link i will have a look :)

 

thank you for replying much appericated :bunny:

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I haven't updated it in awhile. I've been using a paper journal instead. A lot of stuff I write I couldn't post it online. I will try and update it tomorrow when I'm finally back home.

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hi everyone i know we are all hurting and in the same way :sick:

 

but i found some pictures of my ex along with texts saying how he loved me so much, i just feel really low and alone. its 6 weeks today of no contact. it kills me knowing he is with someone else and im so far away from his mind and not in his heart :(

 

i just feel so very sad and i cant see this getting better for me. after how he has treated me i still miss and love him so much. i am so alone in my life right now and i was looking for some advice :sick:

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you feel like that because you care for him....i do too i am through sth similar.just do sth to keep ocupied and it will fade.....ine time they will find out that noone care for them the way we do ....ouch that will make them feel s hit.

 

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hi everyone i know we are all hurting and in the same way :sick:

 

but i found some pictures of my ex along with texts saying how he loved me so much, i just feel really low and alone. its 6 weeks today of no contact. it kills me knowing he is with someone else and im so far away from his mind and not in his heart :(

 

i just feel so very sad and i cant see this getting better for me. after how he has treated me i still miss and love him so much. i am so alone in my life right now and i was looking for some advice :sick:

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i hope so but i dont think mine will think like that... i did care i still do im so hurt and alone. i think he will just be happy with whom and what hes doing :sick:

 

im sorry you are hurting hugs :sick:

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hi everyone i know we are all hurting and in the same way :sick:

 

but i found some pictures of my ex along with texts saying how he loved me so much, i just feel really low and alone. its 6 weeks today of no contact. it kills me knowing he is with someone else and im so far away from his mind and not in his heart :(

 

i just feel so very sad and i cant see this getting better for me. after how he has treated me i still miss and love him so much. i am so alone in my life right now and i was looking for some advice :sick:

 

Not trying to be a jerk but you need to be honest, you didn't find the messages and pictures, you searched for them. It's okay but the only way you're going to defeat this is by taking away the power he currently has over you. You can love and let go at the same time, definitely doesn't make you a bad person for doing so. It hurts bad, trust me I know but this is about you and your happiness now. What I did that helped me more than anything originally was write her letters expressing exactly how I felt. I wrote about 5 or 6 and it was amazing to see the tone of my emotions change so drastically as time went on. Mind you I never sent those letters nor did I have any intentions to, it was a way for me to get my feelings out from being bottled up.

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Not trying to be a jerk but you need to be honest, you didn't find the messages and pictures, you searched for them. It's okay but the only way you're going to defeat this is by taking away the power he currently has over you. You can love and let go at the same time, definitely doesn't make you a bad person for doing so. It hurts bad, trust me I know but this is about you and your happiness now. What I did that helped me more than anything originally was write her letters expressing exactly how I felt. I wrote about 5 or 6 and it was amazing to see the tone of my emotions change so drastically as time went on. Mind you I never sent those letters nor did I have any intentions to, it was a way for me to get my feelings out from being bottled up.

 

yes you are right you busted me, i just miss him so much i feel like i will die with this broken heart :sick:

 

im so sad alone the worst thing is he doesnt even want this power. he doesnt want me and never will. im just so sad hurt and confussed i have told him how i felt millions of times.

 

im at a loss im not a weak person but i feel so weak when it comes to him. i just want him to realise he lost someone who loved him very much and i know he never will :mad:

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yes you are right you busted me, i just miss him so much i feel like i will die with this broken heart :sick:

 

im so sad alone the worst thing is he doesnt even want this power. he doesnt want me and never will. im just so sad hurt and confussed i have told him how i felt millions of times.

 

im at a loss im not a weak person but i feel so weak when it comes to him. i just want him to realise he lost someone who loved him very much and i know he never will :mad:

 

He knows what he lost, sadly he doesn't care. It's not a reflection of you it's just in his mind there is someone out there better. In my opinion its a major risk to take when you already have someone great in your life but you need to show him it was loss. I know you're hurt, hell I still hurt everyday and we've been broken up since February but I wouldn't take her back for anything. When I finally cleared my head of the break up and truly reflected on our 5-year relationship I realized I had no interest in spending my life with someone who had no problem doing the things she did to me.

 

The only way you're going to start to heal is if you actually try. Stop watching romantic movies, listening to sad songs, reminiscing about how amazing things were and just get angry. Get angry that he walked out on someone amazing and use it as fuel to better yourself. Start working out, eat better, do yoga, learn to play the guitar. You need to find a hobby, something that can make you smile and before you know it you won't even realize you haven't thought about him all day. You've got this, I've got faith in you and I'm sure the rest of the forum does as well. Pick your head up, you can do this!

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He knows what he lost, sadly he doesn't care. It's not a reflection of you it's just in his mind there is someone out there better. In my opinion its a major risk to take when you already have someone great in your life but you need to show him it was loss. I know you're hurt, hell I still hurt everyday and we've been broken up since February but I wouldn't take her back for anything. When I finally cleared my head of the break up and truly reflected on our 5-year relationship I realized I had no interest in spending my life with someone who had no problem doing the things she did to me.

 

The only way you're going to start to heal is if you actually try. Stop watching romantic movies, listening to sad songs, reminiscing about how amazing things were and just get angry. Get angry that he walked out on someone amazing and use it as fuel to better yourself. Start working out, eat better, do yoga, learn to play the guitar. You need to find a hobby, something that can make you smile and before you know it you won't even realize you haven't thought about him all day. You've got this, I've got faith in you and I'm sure the rest of the forum does as well. Pick your head up, you can do this!

 

 

thank you my friend you have made me feel better NC is the way for me ive been so strong maintaining it. he doesnt deserve to hear from me. he doesnt deserve for me the suffer and what goes around comes around i wont be able to show him what he has lost as i will never see him again but i will do me and this forum proud. i suppose i had a bad moment a weak one

 

im sorry you are hurting im getting back to working out and making myself feel good little by little what foods would you say is good yo eat to get my mind healthy :)

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See there you go! Screw him, he doesn't deserve you and the quicker you realize that the better your life will be. Don't look at it like you're losing out, he's the loser here.

 

I eat mostly protein. Chicken, tuna, eggs, peanut butter and almonds.

 

If you ever feel down and need to talk feel free to message me? I'll try and help as best I can.

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See there you go! Screw him, he doesn't deserve you and the quicker you realize that the better your life will be. Don't look at it like you're losing out, he's the loser here.

 

I eat mostly protein. Chicken, tuna, eggs, peanut butter and almonds.

 

If you ever feel down and need to talk feel free to message me? I'll try and help as best I can.

 

thank you i will and likewise if you need to chat they message me :)

 

thats right someone one day will appericate what they never did for us :sick:

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