Camaro Guy Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I feel inadequate about dating all the time. I'm 23 years old, so you'd think I would have gotten over these things by now. But no. At 23, I still haven't even gone on a date or kissed a girl yet. Which also means I'm still a virgin. I question my attractiveness daily. I stand and stare at the mirror for long periods of time trying to see how I am attractive or to see how others see me. College was a mental hell for me because I saw all my friends do something normal for them, which was dating and having sex with girls. I questioned my attractiveness often and as I said, I still do today. I've done it all. I went to the gym, I revamped my wardrobe, I looked up tips online on how to attract girls. I've read that girls are only attracted to alpha males and I'm trying my hardest to be one every day. I remember in junior year when my best friend and I were working together. This was around the holidays when I started to feel the chill of loneliness more. After work, when we were driving, he said "nothing beats the feeling of a warm bed and your girlfriend at this time of year". It sort of hit me hard, you know because at that point I hadn't experienced that. I've heard that how much sex you have is related to how attractive or alpha you are. It makes sense I guess. I wouldn't know otherwise because I've never been in that world. Even if I could get sex, it would at least assuage my fears that at least some girls that I like are attracted to me. I'm a good man. I try my best. I work hard. I give my parents some money. I have my own place. I drive a good car. Still, it's not enough. I've had crushes on girls. All types of girls. When I talk to them, I run into roadblocks. I don't know what to say. I fear in my mind that I'm just not enough. I'm not experienced enough, I'm not attractive enough, I'm not tall enough, I'm not muscular enough, I'm not funny enough. These have to be reasons as to why at the age of 23 I have never been on a date. I was wondering if these feelings are normal or maybe I'm just alone here.
deni9 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I don't think that is normal. Well rewind, the thought you are having (insecurity) is NOT normal because you are obsessing with yourself that you are "Not" good enough. When in reality you probably got it all, besides your confidence. I cant express this enough, and believe me THIS matters, Confidence is hot! Maybe if you carried yourself differently and approach a woman with more confidence, she will be more interested in you. I mean when you talk to a girl don't look too scared, don't look too obsessed neither. Just talk to her like if they were one of your bodies, but with respect and kindness! Come out of your shell and stop doubting yourself. You cant go on living like this. Your missing out on awesome things! I hope I can help you out. If you have any more questions, feel free to reply to this comment!
Author Camaro Guy Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 I don't think that is normal. Well rewind, the thought you are having (insecurity) is NOT normal because you are obsessing with yourself that you are "Not" good enough. When in reality you probably got it all, besides your confidence. I cant express this enough, and believe me THIS matters, Confidence is hot! Maybe if you carried yourself differently and approach a woman with more confidence, she will be more interested in you. I mean when you talk to a girl don't look too scared, don't look too obsessed neither. Just talk to her like if they were one of your bodies, but with respect and kindness! Come out of your shell and stop doubting yourself. You cant go on living like this. Your missing out on awesome things! I hope I can help you out. If you have any more questions, feel free to reply to this comment! Well, the only reason I think that I'm not good enough is because I have no success. I would say that I am a confident guy but it isn't enough. I can talk to girls but I can't get past that friend barrier. How would I go about getting past the friend barrier in your perspective (if you are a girl)? Thanks for your time though.
ltjg45 Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Well, the only reason I think that I'm not good enough is because I have no success. I would say that I am a confident guy but it isn't enough. I can talk to girls but I can't get past that friend barrier. How would I go about getting past the friend barrier in your perspective (if you are a girl)? Thanks for your time though. Yeah, I know that feeling all too well except I wasted 4 more years than you did and got nothing to show for it. It's hard to attract a decent woman when you hasn't did anything worth mentioning. No woman worth having wants a dead-beat guy. It makes dating pointless in that regard. Why bother trying when you aren't capable of hanging with the success rates of your competition?
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