missnelly77 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 We have been friends for years not close friends, but friends. A month ago he reached out to me on facebook, and we talked on and off for almost a month. Then a lil over a week ago now he made a comment to me telling me that he would like to get to know me better and see what happens from there. He mentioned coming up to see me the following day if he got everything done at work. We talked about me coming down there since I got done with work earlier and we discussed meeting have way and going to an amusement park. The next dayI didn't hear from him until 4pm and he told me he had to to cancel because he had to work the next day but he would be done at noon and we could get together then. I told him to call me when he got done with work the next day (saturday). Well I didnt hear from him until 6pm on sunday and he was very sorry, work lasted longer than he thought and he forgot his phone. ANYWAYS, we have text everyday since. He is the first one to contact me every morning because I dont want to seem needy. And we continue texting throughout the whole day into the night. We both are asking questions to get to know each other and we are having a lot of laughs. The thing is, is that when I ask him anything about love or relationships he gives me a round a bout answer, a generalized answer, or doesn't respond to them at all and we start talking about other things. He mentioned a couple days ago maybe coming here if things worked out. (he lives 4 hours away) Then I asked him where he sees himself in 5 years and he said a business owner and happily married. I am 35 and he is 37. We have a lot in common we both do a little flirting. He has called me pretty and loved the fact that I am spontaneous cuz that is very important to him. Last night he called to let me know he was going out with friends and he would talk to me tomorrow. Today I mentioned that it would be really nice to see him soon and he responded saying do you think you could handle it? (i had told him a few days ago that the thought of him made my body quiver and we had a long convo about that and he told me i was making him feel that way about me now lol) Then nothing more was said. He didn't say Id like to see you too or anything. That was 2 hours ago now and we havent talked since. Its not unusual because throughout the day there are breaks in between our conversations. I know he said he want to take it slow and go with the flo but he doesn't say anything about liking where this is going or let me believe he is really into me. From what I have said, what is your opinion on him and on me? Is he into me and just not moving as fast as I want, am I moving too fast and expecting too much too soon? Please assess the situation and let me know. Thank you! I know he isn't married. We have mutual friends. He said he was single and not dating, but he could be lying about that because we live so far away. Ive been his facebook friend for years and Ive never seen any woman in the last 2 years in a picture with him or leave any comments on his page. I am not making excuses just giving more info Then last night this was part of our conversation: So yesterday the man "im going with the flow with" and I had this lil conversation after I waited for over 2 hours for him to get back to me: Me: "the way you communicate with someone is very indicative of how you prioritize them in your life. If you’re really interested or into someone, you’ll move mountains to make them a priority. Therefore, when I get a text from a woman that I’m really into, I try my best to respond immediately or within minutes" 2:23 PM Me: just something i read awhile ago 2:24 PM D: Im not sure wut im doin this wknd..wut r u doin?..that statement can hold sum truth to it..how ya day goin? 3:04 PM Me: does that statement have anything to do with how YOU handle communicate 3:18 PM Me: *communication 3:18 PM D: Um i more so handle the person..some ppl like talkn some ppl like textn some ppl like neithr..i dont talk much im borin on the phone..its y i text alot.. 3:21 PM Me: thats not what the statement is talking about. its basically saying how fast you get back to a persons text is how they rank in priority in you life. i thru that out there cuz it took you over 2 hours to answer my text. 3:43 PM Me: it was suppose to be sort of a joke but then you misunderstood the question and your answer didnt sound so good for me. lets just move on lol. 3:48 PM Me: there is a couple of things going on this weekend so im not sure yet. 3:52 PM Me: so tell me what do you like in a woman? 4:22 PM Me: well i guess i will talk to you another time. have a good night 4:41 PM D: Geez my phone was dead..gdnyt then 6:48 PM You can see the times of the texts. I have not talked to him yet today and he usually texts me everyday before noon. Do I get in touch with him or should I just wait for him and give him a lil room to breathe?
Eivuwan Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Um he doesn't seem like a good communicator.
crederer Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I dunno I could only read the first of his two texts before I shuttered. Seriously, you seem articulate, he.......does not. Doesn't seem like a match (for me any ways, you may not put too much consideration into such things).
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