lovehurts5 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 So after a very rough patch between my bf and I about 2 weeks ago this past week between the 2 of us has been really awesome. Our argument, if you haven't read my last few posts, had to do with him being unsure of the relationship because of my insecurities and because he felt I was being too affectionate. I've definitely been more trusting and not so up his butt and he told me he notices and feels happy. I feel like it doesn't take a lot for my boyfriend to get angry or annoyed tho..... In fact when he does get annoyed its over the tiniest things that he makes into big great things and then it's hard to snap him out of it and I never know what to do. For example, I was having a great day today. Back at work substitute teaching after having the summer off and I texted him during my 2 breaks. I felt like during my second break I was doing most of he texting so when I got off I was like I'm not gonna text him right away because I don't wNt to be annoying. So he texts me you don't text me when you get off? I was like hey babe sorry I just thought I texted a lot didn't want to be annoying. He was like I saw you were on Facebook a half hour ago I thought you would've texted me. So I apologized again and told him it was really just because I didn't want to be up his butt after texting him on my break. So then I figured I'd be fun and send him and picture of myself in my underwear to lighten the mood and snap him out of it. And his response to the picture was who's that for? I wS like you babe who else would it be for? He was like oh. So I was like r u mad at me? He was like no. So I was like ok why r u being so short he was like I'm not. Then I tried to just ignore it and change the subject but I can tell he's mad because usually if I send him a picture he acknowledges it. Ughhhh I just hate how his mood can be flipped in a heartbeat. And then I never know how to fix the issue.
Keenly Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Your story doesn't sound like he is mad. He actually sounds a little on secure for some jealous reason? I don't know that's the vibe I got. I think he made up a story in his mind about you getting off and talking to some one else. Try and talk to him about this. It could be a very easily resolved issue. 1
crederer Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I've been in a relationship before similar to this. My girl was overbearing and then when she was trying to do her best, it still annoyed me just cause i was so worn down. It gets to a point where it's as if you've just been rubbed raw and everything after that annoys you about the person, even the fact they're trying annoys you because it's like "why now? Why not before you wore me down to this nub of a man".
Author lovehurts5 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Which is so wierd because I don't ever talk to other guys or out myself into positions to talk to other guys?? I don't know why he'd feel insecure?
crederer Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 There was absolutely nothing at all that lead to it? Even things that you believe he doesn't know about (cause he might know some things that you don't know he knows)? If not, then he has trust issues for one reason or another and you're going to be the one to pay for it.
Author lovehurts5 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 If a guy even tries to talk to me I get really awkward and usually the first thing out of my mouth is hi I have a boyfriend. He's got absolutely nothing he could possibly be insecure or jealous about. Maybe because I'm not being so up his butt he's just assuming the worst? Idk??
crederer Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Maybe you should just straight up ask him what his deal is. If what you're saying is true, you don't deserve that treatment and if he continues it you should drop him.
Author lovehurts5 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 I tried ignoring his bad mood and was asking him how work was he said he's cranky. Ughhhhh
sickpuppy Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I tried ignoring his bad mood and was asking him how work was he said he's cranky. Ughhhhh If this continues to go on you need to talk with him and if things don't improve move on. Maybe he wants to have his space so no matter what you do besides leaving him (as maybe he's not willing to say he wants to break up) it'll only annoy him more. You can't be a mind reader nor walk on eggshells. If he's silently saying he wants his space by getting annoyed with you all the time take his hint for your own good and leave. Frig that noise. I myself would be outta there looking for someone else after I took the time to myself to learn and grow from the experience. But unless you like feeling the way you do..Then stay and deal with it.
veggirl Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 He's not "insecure" he's just an as.shole. An immature baby who pouts and throws tantrums when things don't magically go exactly how he wants them to. I mean better not text TOO much but better text exactly when he UNSPOKENLY expects you to! WTF. I wouldn't deal with that nonsense. Don't baby him and try to cajole/bribe him out of his stupid moods. I mean he acts like a jerk so you reward him with sexts?! What??? Why???? He should be buttering YOU up after he acts like that. This relationship is completely unbalanced. he knows it. He knows he holds all the power and he knows all he has to do is tell you to jump and you will ask how high. 4
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