Rorschach64 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Situation is, I randomly was walking to class and I thought the idea of sending my ex-f of 3 years now, with NC of 9 months including a meaningless e-mail but 3 years of NC truly, flowers for her birthday come April. What spurred this stupidity? FB pictures reappeared on my FB of us together, but I removed them asap, but I also tried to creep on her because of this and only got a single profile picture of her looking like her usual charming self. I found myself over the last few weeks going back to her page and just staring at the picture without really much feelings but missing her. What I want? Horror stories of someone sending a long lost love a gift and getting no reply back or finding out some horrible-devastating information from the ex. Something to make me not do this!
ellowmay Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 While I can't say doing something nice for someone is a bad idea, if your head is still in the relationship and that's your motivation it will come back on you tenfold. I know because I tried to stick it out with my boyfriend after initial breakup and it was much much worse the second time around. During our breakup we formed a mutual friend who ended up using information I told her to turn my former and all our mutual friends against me, resulting in a loss of ability to stay friends with him, and losing all our friends in the community. If you're going to do something nice, make sure your head is in the right place first. being too involved can seem desperate.
Author Rorschach64 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Well I guess I should have mentioned I would have just sent them with no name or anything. Anyway, my intentions or what I hope for this? I do not know....maybe in some stupid ass way I think maybe this would make her at least remember me or the good times? That doesn't make sense since it would be from an anon..... I know I shouldn't do this because I absolutely don't want it to be a desperate act or to get her to be my friend. Cruel outcome you have suffered ellow, makes me glad I stuck with not wanting to just be friends :\
Mr Scorpio Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Saying "happy birthday"? Fine. Saying "happy birthday, I miss you, maybe we can catch up sometime soon?" Risky, but fine. Sending flowers after such a long period of NC? Creepy for her, dangerous for you.
Author Rorschach64 Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Haha....unfortunately I cannot help laugh at the creepy part....thanks Mr. Scorpio, I think you did it for me
Mr Scorpio Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Haha....unfortunately I cannot help laugh at the creepy part....thanks Mr. Scorpio, I think you did it for me No problem. If anyone knows about creeping women out, it's me. 1
JoelBarish Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 (edited) Flowers? Really??? After 3 years??? FLOWERS???? She will remember the good times alright, on the way to the court house. Let me guess, you WANT her to get a restraining order so you end up in prison with a cell mate who becomes your new life partner named Bubba. Just remember Bubba when you think of your little flowers. :laugh::laugh::laugh: Was that too harsh? Edited September 21, 2013 by JoelBarish
Author Rorschach64 Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 No not too harsh it was what I was seeking, so thank you It is a very foolish idea and thanks to the posts, as simple as it is, I don't wanna do it anymore. Very very stupid idea.
JoelBarish Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Very very stupid idea. Ah hey man, it just shows you are human.
AnyaNova Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I only hope that I can be as strong as you are in this instance, especially if mine should ever contact me.
Author Rorschach64 Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Yeah just human...that's why I can forgive myself for slipping up, even if I committed a huge mistake. I am not strong....I just try to drown out emotions with logic, a lot of logic and if that fails there is always LS!
Sugarkane Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Hi I remember your story because I've also been in NC for 3 years. I don't think you should send flowers, but maybe a message if even that.
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