somethingaboutkimmy Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Hi Everybody, I'm new at this and wanted an outside perspective. I was in a serious relationship about 5 years ago... yes, years. Anyways, when the breakup occurred it was on his end. I was two weeks away from moving to Las Vegas where he had taken a job, and he ended up getting pulled over for drinking and driving in a company vehicle. I almost lost my job as my transfer had already been placed. Luckily, my Technical Director loves me and kept me on by splitting my salary between two departments. We moved into his condo and I was the only source of income... well, and the money his dad sent him. Anyways, the drinking continued... to the point where he was hiding it from me. He became verbally abusive and finally kicked me and my then 3-year-old son out. So, I left and he ended up contacting me several months later. I decided to give it another go as he said he couldn't imagine his life without me. Big mistake. He ended up hiding me from everyone in his life... to the point that he sent me to a McDonald's to go to the restroom, as his sister was home. Now fast forward a couple years, he has contacted me through Gmail every few months. This last stretch was two years and he has popped up again. I don't get it. Why is he still contacting me? I have asked him again to please let me move on with my life and he hasn't responded. I just don't get it. Why would I even begin to consider a reconciliation if the guy can't even come up with an honest apology for all the ****ty things he did to me and my son? Please, if anyone has some insight I would appreciate it. I know the guys been through a lot (parallel mid-life crisis), but what the heck does he want from me?
HereWeGoAgain1 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Because he's a loser and it's likely things have gotten considerably worse for him. He's failed to move forward and address his problems and so he's flicking through history to see if there's anything good he can pull out and cling on to. It's what it sounds like to me anyway. 1
GTNBTTR Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Maybe he had been seeing someone else and that recently ended. It could be that he contacted you as a rebound. Don't fall into this trap.
Balzac Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Why do care? Any response you give encourages continued contact. 1
Author somethingaboutkimmy Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Hi Everyone, Thanks for the responses. Balzac, obviously since I was willing to relocate for the guy, he meant a great deal to me... and still does. Unfortunately, I don't want to fall into a bad situation and it is extremely hard to be the one to say please leave me alone. Despite all that, I have done just that... I told him to please let me move on and stop contacting me. I just wanted some insight, as I do wonder why he hasn't stopped contacting me despite his ending the relationship. The heart doesn't always work like the brain... it doesn't always respond the way we want it to. No matter how bad the situation or even when our brain is screaming, "No, you fool!".
headinthecloud Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 You deserve someone who is thrilled to be with you and wants to show you off to his friends. Anything else is not worth your time.
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