amythan Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Hi there, I posted here about my situation with this guy. After pursuing me he decided that he is not ready because his break up is very fresh and need to figure out. I got it, you are not interested. From this day I moved on. I was very much into him when I thought we could have a chance but now I cannot see the point. From that day (like two weeks ago) he drunken texted me from other country and he emailed me every day asking me questions and giving me lots of information about him. You could think that he wants to be friends (and I would be fine with it) but here is the catch ... He doesn't want to see me ! He lives in a different town and next week he will be here working at my office building but I am sure we will not see each other. So, what is the point ? I do not feel like being witty, flirty or charming when I talk to him because I know this will go nowhere. On the other hand we are not friends ! I have friends and I see them. Also people use the word friend very lightly, a friend is way more than this. I never contact him and he is trying to keep this going but I do not get why. I stop responding, i do not entertain people, I have better things to do with my time. But why guys like to have a pen pal ?!? Thanks for your thoughts !
Author amythan Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Oh no ! We met a few times and we work together. It was during the last weeks he told me that he needs to be alone and he likes me too much
scorpiogirl Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Just stop replying. I have a few men who do this. They want to text or email all day about nothing but don't want to meet up even as just friends. I said exactly the same thing: I'm not looking for a pen-pal. Even if we're not dating, we can be proper friends. Meet up. Chat. But I think it's a way of keeping away boredom. Or of having contact with someone without having to put in real effort. Whatever it is, I'd just stop responding if I were you. In fact, I am you lol. I've just cut off contact with people like this. I'm way too busy to be texting or emailing someone constantly about nothing.
Author amythan Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Yeah I stop responding because I am not that lonely to maintain an imaginary friend I do not think it is boredom and for sure he is not looking for sex so i am puzzled that a man with a normal life in his mid thirties wants to entertain this non sense ...
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