Xemyd Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I wasn't too sure where to post this so it is in two topics, sorry. I'm new to this website because I don't really have anyone to talk to about my break up. I don't like talking to my friends about it because they tend to bring it up often and it ends up derailing my day. Sorry that this is really long, I don't really know how to go about these types of things. Me and my ex were together for over a year. We started seeing each other in July(2012), and in August he told me he accepted a job working out of town. I had done long distance before, and I know how difficult it is, but I wanted to be with him, so I stayed. He ended up working out of town until the next August(2013), throughout that time, he worked 8 days and then came home for about 5 days. We texted throughout the relationship, we'd see each other when he came home. We even went to a wedding together in June(2013). He was going back to school at the start of September, but he'd only be gone until the middle of November, but during August, he rarely talked to me, and finally I got fed up and told him we needed to talk about the lack of communication. That was last Friday night, he apologized for not being open with me, but then started saying that he didn't know if he'd be back home after school, there isn't many jobs for his trade around here. I barely said anything to him that night because I knew I'd just start crying. I ended up spending the night with him, and in the morning he let me down easy, saying the distance was just too much. He looked and sounded absolutely sick over what he was saying, so I could tell he didn't want to have to do it. He had mentioned the night before that he'd rather end it on good terms, then force the relationship a few more months through the distance, and break up horribly. He kind of left it open, if his situation changes and he can be closer he'd probably try again. So, yeah, it was kind of mutual, I didn't scream or fight, I understood where he was coming from, I was calm and didn't let my emotions get to me until I was home. I have issues telling people how I feel, so I never told him I loved him, although I have since around last November. This isn't my first break up, but this just feels different then all the others. I am upset with the situation, but I`m not miserable and bawling my eyes out all day long. There`s just something about it that makes me think we should be together, and I don`t believe in "the one", but I think he's someone who could be my "one". I'm currently doing no contact, although I haven't told him that, I just haven't said anything to him since I left his house last. I'm currently in my last year of college, and I have an appointment tomorrow to see if I'd be able to transfer for my next semester to be closer to where he may have a job. I have set a goal that I can't contact him until it has been 4 weeks, unless he contacts me first, of course. In 4 weeks it will be the Thanksgiving weekend(Canadian), which he will be home for. Anyways, my concern is what I should say to him when I can contact him? If I should ask to see him and talk, or just talk over the phone and tell him everything I should have. I do want him back, and I do think we can make the distance work, we never really did the proper long distance things. We could have made it easier on ourselves but we never did. I just need some advice. Do I have a shot at rekindling what we had, even if distance is still an issue? I just feel lost.
emi Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 he gave you up and walked away. I think you may think its a right reason to blame the distance but try image you were close, problem come up, and he just walk away without trying to tackle it. I may sound harsh but there are many people who has the same hard situation like yours, but they stayed and make it work, not walking away I dont think there is anything you can do at the moment, just carry on with your life and see how things go. Dont wait
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