truth_seeker Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Ladies: you like a guy. You want him to make a move. He confesses he likes you but he adds: "I'm happy just being friends." You take that as an insult?
BikerAccnt Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 You mean you are friend zoning a woman? and not the reverse... Wow..hell has frozen over! 3
Author truth_seeker Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 I'm taking it as women don't take kindly to a man only wanting to be their friend.
crederer Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Women in general take rejection a lot harder than men simply because they're not as used to it. I do alright with women, but I get rejected probably 60% of the time. I rejected 2 women in my entire life and I was treated as if I just drowned a couple of puppies or something. 3
PlumPrincess Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Ladies: you like a guy. You want him to make a move. He confesses he likes you but he adds: "I'm happy just being friends." You take that as an insult? What a wuss... We don't that. We want someone strong and determined. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 What a wuss... We don't that. We want someone strong and determined. How so. In the OP's question the man just wants to be friends. The woman wants more but the man does not. He is strong and determined....determined to date someone else. 4
crude Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 What a wuss... We don't that. We want someone strong and determined. As Mrlonelyone said, he's strong and determined to do better. He's what women want, a confident man, confident he doesn't have to settle for mediocrity. 2
darkmoon Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 (edited) sounds a bit overstated to me, you have to ask advice here, look, it sounds like you want to be in her life regardless of if, when more likely, some other guy asks her out too, it just seems a bit clingy and, candidly desperate, unless you are extravert and sunny do not do it, not an insult, just depends how you say it, happily is okay Edited September 20, 2013 by darkmoon
William Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Let's keep the topic focused on how women feel if presented with the scenario outlined in the starting post. Ladies, would you be insulted? Yes or no? Why? Discuss. Thanks. 1
CptSaveAho Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 This will piss off a woman... to be friends with her when she wants to date you All of her friends will start to hate you as well... ..... Why just be friends with her... either take the risk to date her or just move on and spend your time finding someone thats not a risk 1
Author truth_seeker Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 She doesn't want to be friends. I've asked many times and have gotten the cold shoulder.
sickpuppy Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 The only time women wouldn't give a crap about being friendzoned by a guy is if he isn't hot, desired by other women, offers no social value to them, and they have multiple other options that are better than him. 1
Gottabestrong Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Ladies: you like a guy. You want him to make a move. He confesses he likes you but he adds: "I'm happy just being friends." You take that as an insult? No. I might be disappointed, and possibly embarrassed if I made it clear that I like him but he rejected me. But not insulted. I guess I'd be insulted if you continued your statement with: "you are not smart/beautiful/sexy/fun/etc. enough for me". However, your post sounds to me like you told her you like her, but you are not that bothered about dating her. You are happy just being friends or going on a date.whatever. I'd understand why she could be upset with that, because it sounds to me like you are willing to date her if she puts in all the work, but you don't care enough to make any moves yourself. I guess that would make me feel insulted as in you are saying she is not worth it for you to make an effort. Guess it all depends on context and I could be way off here. Just my 2 cents.
MalachiX Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Women in general take rejection a lot harder than men simply because they're not as used to it. . Don't know if I buy that. Usually the people I see most devistated and unwilling to take a hint are men. I think it's because men are encouraged by society to be the pursuers and agressers. As such, when a man gets rejected he's failed in this task. When a women gets rejected, I'm sure it still stings, but I don't think it feels like as much of a failure in this context. That said, views on dating are constantly evolving so i'm always uncomfortable making generalizations one way or the other.
irc333 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Ladies: you like a guy. You want him to make a move. He confesses he likes you but he adds: "I'm happy just being friends." You take that as an insult? "Telling a woman you'd be happy to be her friend" Said no MAN ever! 1
phineas Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I've only told a woman we could be friends after she didn't want to date me & she offered friendship. then i treated her like a friend. until they changed their minds & I banged them like a screen door in a hurricane. For the women i'm just friends with & not interested in dating for one reason or another it was never needed to be said because they got the hint when I didn't take the many openings they gave me & instead went after other women. They did get pissed for a bit, but they got over it. 1
irc333 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I only wind up being friends with women that I wouldn't consider dating due to their personality flaws. Sometimes it isn't about their looks either. There was one woman I was attracted to, however, after getting to know her, she's pulled some pretty concerning financial responsibilities. For instance, one day she tried to use her credit card and it was denied. Turned out, she had completely forgotten about a payment plan she had going on with her filtration system and this wasn't the first mishap she told me about. Nice girl, but could wind up putting me in the poor house if I ever married her. lol
gaius Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Would never disrespect a woman by telling her I just wanted to be her friend. You either date her or claim you want to date her while coming up with many excuses why you can't. 1
Author truth_seeker Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 And another thing...You are playing games. You tell a woman that you like her, but "are happy being friends"? It's a dirty game. After reading your post more carefully, I can see why a woman would be angry over this. This silly little game is disgusting and childish. You're incorrect. I wasn't playing a dirty game at all. I did like the girl a lot but then discovered some things about her personality wise that soured my desire for her. I know her family and was trying to be nice about the whole thing without insulting her or her family. The family likes me a lot, too, which made it harder. I can see now how she got angry and upset. It does come off like, "I like you but not enough to really want you!" I didn't realize that then. I do now as the girl has been insulting me for months! 1
Author truth_seeker Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 However, your post sounds to me like you told her you like her, but you are not that bothered about dating her. You are happy just being friends or going on a date.whatever. I'd understand why she could be upset with that, because it sounds to me like you are willing to date her if she puts in all the work, but you don't care enough to make any moves yourself. I guess that would make me feel insulted as in you are saying she is not worth it for you to make an effort. Guess it all depends on context and I could be way off here. Just my 2 cents. She's immature and took it as she wasn't good enough for me and I preferred other women over her... which is true. If you met this girl any guy would understand why I would rather be her friend than her boyfriend.
Author truth_seeker Posted September 21, 2013 Author Posted September 21, 2013 Well, I'm glad that you realize that it was coming off as a game. I'm curious: what about her personality didn't you like? She's stubborn, flighty and has a penchant to flirt with way too many men. It's her way or no way. There was a strong attraction between us and I know if we had sex it would be explosive.
TB Rhine Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 She's stubborn, flighty and has a penchant to flirt with way too many men. It's her way or no way. So she's a woman, then. Also, this guy's a humblebragger.
Summerslam Posted September 22, 2013 Posted September 22, 2013 Why didn't you do it like everybody else: "you're like a sister to me", that way you can avoid having sex with her, & avoid insulting her by labeling her the closest she can be to a man without being his wife.
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