Nancy87 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 What do u do when u miss your ex ... How do u combat the empty feeling? 1
Balzac Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Pull out the list of flaws that you've created to bring your brain back to reality.
love1336x Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Go on this site, and click on "Post here instead chatting with your loser ex" link.. I usually feel better after I post. But, I dunno keep yourself busy. You can't let your heart ponder and take control when you miss them! I know I be tempted to text my ex, but then I remember... He does not want me, and that usually calms me down. Killing hope with facts! I killed hope REAL COLD HARSH FACTS about why we don't work, and how he doesn't want me. 4
joe86 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Just remind myself everything happens for a reason and I don't want to be with someone unless they want to be with me.
Mr Scorpio Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 What do u do when u miss your ex ... How do u combat the empty feeling? Invoke one of many "mental scripts" to divert my attention to something else. "I wonder how the Pistons will do this season?" or "new Breaking Bad episode this week! Sweet!". In my case, things ended in a short, nasty manner. So, if I find myself running through pleasant memories, I try to keep going until I hit the nasty stuff at the end. Makes me miss her much less.
AnyaNova Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 Well, if tonight was any indication, Start cleaning madly around the house as if I were on fire or something, despite being all bronchitisy and asthmaticy. Majorly wear myself down. Realize that the biggest part of my problem tonight is B vitamin depletion, took 2 of those (which, btw, do not do unless you know you have issues with B vitamins and have a recommendation from your doctor) and am now in an odd state of calmness, wherein I realize (and I realize that this will not make sense to anyone else) that the fact that he kept the bear (he wouldn't have kept the bear if he wasn't happy in it and he had all sorts of bad memories about it) meant that he really did love teaching and somebody convinced him that he shouldn't and he left it, and that means things were far too messed up long before I arrived on the scene for it to work. Maybe, I hope someday, some of the seeds I planted about the importance of his needs, desires, and wishes will take hold. I think that is all I can hope at this point. Yeah. Anyway. Cleaning is highly recommended and you love your space when you are done. Also, reminding yourself of the negatives in the relationship, reminding yourself of the things that you deserved that you weren't getting in it, and reminding yourself of this basic fact. You deserve someone who will never leave you. Who will recognize your worth from the beginning and work to keep you by their side. Why would you want someone back (I know, I know, and to some degree, I do still want him back, I should never have gone to see him again) who has already proven that when things get rough, they head for the hills? Or as a good friend said to me, "When things go boom, you want someone who is going to stay and help clean up the mess together." I guess what I am trying to say, is that we all deserve someone who proves to us that they are in it for the long haul and who will never leave us. Why should we want to get back with someone who already has? (Forgive me if this is convoluted. I am on interesting medicine tonight that I have no choice about).
tinker683 Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I remind myself that it's them per se that I want, it's the feeling I had when I was with them and that this feeling is something I can experience again with someone who actually WANTS me....
RiceaRoni Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 I just remind myself how he hurt me And that if he were to come back, things would never be the same. I'd be too hurt to even consider a reconciliation. I also remind myself of how much better I could be treated. How there are far better men out there that would treat me much better than how I was treated before. Plus just remind myself that someone who loves you, would never give you up. Just keep yourself busy and go out with friends or spend some time with family. 1
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