keepontruckin Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 There is a 50% chance that first marriages will end in divorce. These odds are even worse if you are in your second or third marriage. Something like 73% failure rate. Women initiate almost 80% of all divorces. Keep this in mind... My wife left me, and had me served with the divorce docs, after a marriage that lasted all of one year and three months. We had dated for three and a half years prior, so it wasn't exactly a "spur of the moment" thing to get married... The first day of marriage was the beginning of the end. You see, men expect women to stay the same, and they don't... Women expect the men to change, and they don't... This is just the way it is. Everything was great until marriage. Now... Will I ever get married again? Never. It was a failed experience, and I will not recreate it again. Why? Common Law relationships are just as good as marriage, except that the other partner cannot claim the home, since it is not a "marital" home. Sure, what is contributed to the household after the fact can, and should be, divided 50/50, but you can't touch anything that was there before... The way it should be. Now, it becomes unfortunate that people that think they are in love, only to discover that their partner can leave in the blink of an eye. Yes. Some people are wired emotionally to disconnect when it suits them. Once you no longer have a use for them, they can easily move on. Trust me, it doesn't matter how nice she was, or how pretty her smile was... She was planning her escape while you were still taking her out for dinners... She faked it, because she liked the dinners, and didn't quite have the "other" cock in place quite at that time yet... And then we, the dumpees, cry about how we somehow failed them... They are spreading their legs around town, happier than ever, and we are feeling guilt? They are happy, we are not... (to be continued) 3
hurts2death Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 third marriage failure rate of 73% wooohooo like this.. wish my ex good failure... death to unhonest fakers that use people and their economic status as they are playstations..... thanks
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 why is it skewed towards women......women are the dumpers because you marry.....the 80 per cent divorce instigated by women might just include infidelity and or spousal abuse..... as far as common law goes you are right it is easy for someone to walk away...in my case it was after three girls that i had to him many years of support, personal sacrifice,and love that i gave not forgetting, forgiveness for infidelity......fifteen years later he ends it on an affair.....i instigated that of course....i gave him the ultimatum.......either leave her or leave me...so he walked away the same night ...just like that...abandoned a family common law marriage isnt the solution ...never was a solution.......its a cop out....anyone male or female should honor commitment and if they dont honor commitment...then they should not be with someone who does....thats the solution...so people who believe in marriage and sticking together have a chance of finding one another...in my mind common law is part of the problem of the growing lack of commitment and infidelity then its a case of the easy walk away........definitely not a solution.......deb 1
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Don't reason with the bitter deb, there's no point. :-) probably right with no point.....i am a trier though...smilin atcha...deb 1
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