runforafall Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Online dating experience over recent months has been extremely frustrating, and starting to wonder if there's something wrong with me. Person 1 - first date was great, ended up partying into night with lots of making out. Second date was also cool, lots of smiles and fun banter with a little more making out. Received text before 3rd date saying "Sorry to cancel, dates have been fun but don't see ths going anywhere" Person 2 - three dates with plenty of fun banter, only got physical at end of third date. Received text next day saying "I don't want to lead you on, so I think it's best we don't see each other anymore" Person 3 - 1st date also (very) cool, again lots of smiles and fun banter, with some making out too. She initiated contact a lot between 1st and 2nd date. 2nd date yesterday, more fun banter and plenty more making out. Sent text when I got home saying I had a good time etc, received text this morning saying something along the lines of "last night was cool. just going to say this, this isn't exactly what I'm looking for" Person 3 was a bit of a blow as I felt a real connection with her (as much as you can after a couple of dates, anyway), and now starting to feel a bit jaded about it all. Another date this weekend with someone new, but I wonder if I should just cancel it. Why do people seem so keen, only to do a 180 deg turn after a few dates?
Philosoraptor Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Well in a few dates people have a good idea whether or not they see potential. You're also using OLD, which give people a lot of options so they're not as patient getting to know one person when they have a bunch of other dates lined up. Just be thankful they were upfront early rather than dragging it on. Respect their honesty and continue meeting new people until you've found a mutual match. 2
CarrieT Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 You are not doing anything wrong (other than possibly getting too physical too early). This is what dating is all about - the exploration. In my OLD days, for over two years I talked to HUNDREDS of guys, went on over 50 first dates! FIFTY! It is a process - just relax. 1
Jadedbyluv Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 At least these women have the decency to be honest and upfront with you. That doesn't always happen. The right woman will come along. Don't give up.
TheGuard13 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Maybe they want more than fun banter and making out?
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