laura1011 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Heya!! So i met this guy online and we started dating.. i told him it was hard to take things seriously until we had met because i was a bit freaked out about the whole online dating. He got me tickets to go see him and i totally freaked out and missed the flight!! :/ he was so so upset and i didn't wana lose what we had (he has became like my best friend) so I spent my own money and decided to go within the next few days. When i got there he was a total jerk!! every day he would yell at me for not putting out :/ and then when i finally gave in he would be angry at me all day the next day making my time with him hell!! because i was treating him wrong for not being totally into it. The thing is we had talked about not sleeping with each other straight away because we both had just come out of long term relationships and wanted to go slow! I just felt so used and forced into sleeping with him. When i went back home i tried ending things with him because I was so upset with how everything turned out. But his whole thing was how upset he was from me treating him like crap for missing the flight in the first place and made me feel like I deserved it. Next thing i know he has tickets to come see me. Reluctantly I let him stay with me and things seemed to be good but he still told me i was treating him crap so i agreed to go and spend some time with him back in Colorado and leave my job (stupid i know) to try for our relationship. When I got there he did a lot for me!! but it always just felt like we were best friends than a couple. He used to always down talk me before but now it got much worse and kept putting me down constantly calling me ugly, goofy looking, fat, unattractive, worthless and would ignore me and always make me feel stupid. I got so so low living with him!! I was doing everything i could for him but still he would say i was treating him like crap?!! I was at loss what to do and fed up of being treated the way I was and moved back. Now he wants me back and keeps saying he was only was like that because i never did anything for him and he was the only one putting any effort into us (not true) and he just wanted me to make things up to him for missing the flight before he can treat me right!!! It makes me so so angry because he keeps begging me to make things up to him when i feel like he should be sorry for what he has done to me and want to make things up to me!! I miss him so much and have grown to love him.. we did have a lot of great memories and we are so close :/ he did do so much for me and its hard thinking of what i gave up to be with him and now I hate losing him!! But I fear if i do go back to him and try to do my best for him that things wont change like he says they will.. Should I give him one last try or give up?
Omei Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 There is so much blame and clearly grudges have been formed off the hop, this relationship sounds like a teen drama movie. Its going to get worse before it's better in fact it sounds like it will never be better the whole relationship just sounds like a war. And that verbal abuse? Why do you love this person?
emi Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 i think u should take it slow. You shouldnt lose yourself for any people. Even if you try to become obedient and do whatever he want, your relationship gonna die out soon anyway And just one missed flight and he seem to cant let it go. Try think about when you are married to him, and you accidentally did something bad. What will happen ?
esteem-jam Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Try think about when you are married to him, and you accidentally did something bad. What will happen ? Thats right. He will mention that missed flight again ;p This RS does not sound much good. Find some other guy online, there are so many, and you will have a fresh start.
Zahara Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Should I give him one last try or give up? Why does it take so long for some people to learn a lesson? Things should have ended when you went back home. You felt forced into having sex. Ick. And everytime you went in for another round, it hurt you. Why aren't you getting it? And if a man called me goofy, ugly, fat, unattracttive and stupid, it would be hard to find it in me to love someone that viewed me that way. I'd be repulsed. I'd want nothing to do with him. I'd run. But hey, give him another chance. Maybe one last round of abuse is the only thing that will teach you that he won't change.
devilish innocent Posted September 21, 2013 Posted September 21, 2013 He's a very classic example of somebody who is verbally and emotionally abusive. If you go back, I guarantee you will become depressed again. Your self-esteem will go way down. Your physical health will suffer from the emotional stress. He will manipulate you into believing or doing whatever crazy s( he wants you to think or do. There's a fairly good chance he will become physically abusive at some point as well. He's looking to control you in whatever way possible, and many of the techniques he uses are very disturbing. This man is very dangerous and toxic. Absolutely stay as far away from him as possible. Cut off all electronic communication as well as real world communication. Please keep yourself healthy and safe by avoiding any and all contact.
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