lilmiscassie92 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 So back in December I started talking to this guy online. He was deployed, we met finally in May, lost contact a couple times in between and then we started hanging out on the weekends or every other weekend for the last month. He wants a relationship, but I wouldn't even consider us exclusive or take us seriously because we have been fighting so much and I have been trying to break things off every other day, and something happened 2 weeks ago that made me mad: This is a bit personal, so I apologize in advance, but he asked for anal, and I told him I didn't want to. The idea makes me very apprehensive and uneasy. He said I should still do it just to make him happy. I was very upset with this statement. BTW, we are long distance (Vegas and he's in San Diego). Despite this statement, he has been nothing short of a good guy to me. But that made me mad. and we have been fighting so much i feel so overwhelmed every time I have to respond to a text to him or answer a phone call. Since school started 4 weeks ago, I have been working in a research lab and my partner and I have gotten really close. Last night he came over and we were drinking while we were working and ended up kissing and stuff (no sex). As it turns out, he is in a "gray area" with this other girl. I pointed out that he obviously doesn't have something healthy going on if he has been spending so much time with me at my apartment, staying over and what not. But regardless, I told him I wasn't going to wait around. He says he likes me but didn't make a move because he thought I was seeing this other guy. I am so fed up with everyone right now.
Philosoraptor Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Well this guy from December you should drop as you're fighting all the time and he clearly doesn't respect your boundaries. Your lab partner is bouncing around, possibly even cheating with you on this other girl. If you're looking for something serious I'd drop both of these guys and patiently wait for someone who respects you and relationships in general. If you're not looking for anything serious, option two is at least local. 2
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