laura1011 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 (edited) Heya!! So i met this guy online and we started dating.. i told him it was hard to take things seriously until we had met because i was a bit freaked out about the whole online dating. He got me tickets to go see him and i totally freaked out and missed the flight!! :/ he was so so upset and i didn't wana lose what we had (he has became like my best friend) so I spent my own money and decided to go within the next few days. When i got there he was a total jerk!! every day he would yell at me for not putting out :/ and then when i finally gave in he would be angry at me all day the next day making my time with him hell!! because i was treating him wrong for not being totally into it. The thing is we had talked about not sleeping with each other straight away because we both had just come out of long term relationships and wanted to go slow! I just felt so used and forced into sleeping with him. When i went back home i tried ending things with him because I was so upset with how everything turned out. But his whole thing was how upset he was from me treating him like crap for missing the flight in the first place and made me feel like I deserved it. Next thing i know he has tickets to come see me. Reluctantly I let him stay with me and things seemed to be good but he still told me i was treating him crap so i agreed to go and spend some time with him back in Colorado and leave my job (stupid i know) to try for our relationship. When I got there he did a lot for me!! but it always just felt like we were best friends than a couple. He used to always down talk me before but now it got much worse and kept putting me down constantly calling me ugly, goofy looking, fat, unattractive, worthless and would ignore me and always make me feel stupid. I got so so low living with him!! I was doing everything i could for him but still he would say i was treating him like crap?!! I was at loss what to do and fed up of being treated the way I was and moved back. Now he wants me back and keeps saying he was only was like that because i never did anything for him and he was the only one putting any effort into us (not true) and he just wanted me to make things up to him for missing the flight before he can treat me right!!! It makes me so so angry because he keeps begging me to make things up to him when i feel like he should be sorry for what he has done to me and want to make things up to me!! I miss him so much and have grown to love him.. we did have a lot of great memories and we are so close :/ he did do so much for me and its hard thinking of what i gave up to be with him and now I hate losing him!! But I fear if i do go back to him and try to do my best for him that things wont change like he says they will.. Should I give him one last try or give up? Edited September 20, 2013 by laura1011
BradJacobs Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Yes, you should totally get back with a verbally abusive and emotionally manipulative man. (that's 100% sarcasm) 3
ScienceGal Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Giving him another chance would be a complete waste of your time. You deserve better. Next...
julia12 Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Laura DARLING, I think you might know the answer to this one yourself. This guy sounds like an emotionally immature man, and then some. You will end up exhausted if you give him another go. Please let him go - he might even get the message that he has to get his s^&t together x 100000 if he wants to be with anyone at all!
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