staryeyes Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 So Monday morning we were texting as normal until about 10:30 am then bam he disappeared. Very not normal we are in constant contact all day every day. So I text email etc nothing. 4:30 my phone rings I am so mad I don't answer. So he texts I am trying to call you she knows everything including the pregnancy. She obviously is right there as he calls and tells me we are done no more contact. 2 days of only texts of questions she has and 1 word answers obviously being closly watched and another day of no.contact the stress and anxiety put me in preterm laborr and my son entered this world at 33 weeks. I texted him I was in labor I texted baby came and I got an ok. Just ok I was pissed hurt confused. This was the man that begged me to stay told me never to be afraid we would always be ok. An hour later a text. I can't talk now how is he? Are you ok? I proceed to tell him he is 4lbs will need to be in nicu for weeks to learn to breath suck and live. I then spent the afternoon by my sons side. I came back to a few messages asking if we are ok obviously sent when she is not paying attention. You think he's till with us?
LilGirlandOW Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 wow First of all congrats on your new baby Second, that is the most heartless incident I've ever heard of, I'm so sorry you're going through this, I'm dumbfounded, I hope you and your son are doing well, please keep us updated, 4lbs is so tiny. What a prick for causing this all and then not having a backbone to be there for you both. ((Big Hugs)) xoxo
veryhappy Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Wow! First of all, hang in there. At 33 weeks his chances are really good. Just try to focus on your son and that he'll be okay. Second, it's so heartless to deal with the disillusionment of who your AP is while ging through everything else. Yes, that's how they react, apparently even if there's a baby coming or a premature born one in the nicu. I am so, so sorry, but life will get better even if he won't be in it. Believe that.
ComingInHot Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 starryeyes, he's not still with you, he is w/his Wife. For now. You however, are With your son! He is alive and what is going to be your Main, as in #1 Priority from here on out! Right now, FORGET (I know, Not possible but try) MM. He can text when His Wife isn't looking is TOTAL Crap!! He created a child with you, but he is no Dad to him... yet. Until he starts acting like one, don't let him toss you his spare moments, change or leftovers. You & your son are worth SO much more. Maybe not to him and/or His Wife & family but to You and Your family & friends, Most Definitely!* Be thankful for the doctors, the technology, God for giving you a chance to get to see your son and hopefully get to know him, raise him in the ways that respectful, honorable and loving. I pray a health onto this little boy, for strength of spirit, body and mind. I pray JOY into Your heart to embrace your son as your Best work yet!! 10 fingers, 10 toes, everything where it should be and the help he needs to grow big and strong! Focus on what you KNOW You Have* CIH* 2
ComingInHot Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 starry, Disclaimer: By spare "change" I by NO means was implying don't take child support... I'd think that is a Must when you and your son go home together! 2
tiernan Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Staryeyes, I feel so sorry about your situation. Thank God your son is ok. As for his father I have no comments, wipe him out of your life once and for all. He showed you exactly what a prick he is, it was the biggest test and he failed utterly. Be strong for a baby and tell him to leave you both alone.
couldhavebeen Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 starry, Am in the same situation... though my baby is still in my tummy (5 month old..). My MM bailed out even before my baby is ready to face the world. He asked me to not include him in our life and forget him! That was just last week because he's so damed afraid the W would get a heart attacked once the secret is out. At least for you he is still asking how you guys are doing. So, just look at the bright side, he cares but just not enough where as in my case, he totally doesn't even want to care at all... A total jerk but I was stupid enough to have loved him. Anyhow, take it easy with the baby ang your recuperation... Babies are blessings so for both of us let's just thank those *******s for this gift and move on! Congrats for having survive the delivery. My prayers are with u n ur son...
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