sjm Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I was told and shown evidence of my ex having moved on by one of his clients when i bumped into them so I emailed him saying "I wish you had told me this was the case as I feel a little foolish now, but it's okay I don't have any hard feelings and all I ever wanted was for you to be happy so there is no need to hide anything" and he replies to me saying "Im not going out with anyone lol so your source has misinformed you, or your playing tricks on me. Hope your well :)" Which makes me mad cause 1. hes making me out to be crazy 'playing tricks' 2. I know he is definitely with someone else and 3. I was so nice and mature about it and there was no reason he had to lie to me at all... Whats a smart way to respond to this?
Chris715 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 I don't think you should contact him again sjm. I get how hard it is, I really, really do. I've been struggling with it for 10 months now so I'm by no means an expert on maintaining NC, quite the opposite actually. Whether he's playing games with you or not you're only going to hurt yourself if you continue to contact him. Do the hard thing and the right thing and stop. I wish someone had been there to tell me this immediately after my break up, probably would've saved me a lot of pain. 1
Author sjm Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 I don't think you should contact him again sjm. I get how hard it is, I really, really do. I've been struggling with it for 10 months now so I'm by no means an expert on maintaining NC, quite the opposite actually. Whether he's playing games with you or not you're only going to hurt yourself if you continue to contact him. Do the hard thing and the right thing and stop. I wish someone had been there to tell me this immediately after my break up, probably would've saved me a lot of pain. Yeah instantly when I saw it I was like "there is no point talking to him ever again, no matter how much respect I give him, I wont get any in return" But then I thought about it and I DO NOT want him to think that I believe him for a second. I want him to know that I think he is full of crap and did not fall for that for a second. I was considering of just replying with an "ok" or "I see what you tried to do there, you can't fool me."
Chris715 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Yeah instantly when I saw it I was like "there is no point talking to him ever again, no matter how much respect I give him, I wont get any in return" But then I thought about it and I DO NOT want him to think that I believe him for a second. I want him to know that I think he is full of crap and did not fall for that for a second. I was considering of just replying with an "ok" or "I see what you tried to do there, you can't fool me." That's the other thing I've learned, is you can't keep caring what he thinks about you or you will drive yourself nuts trying to figure out what they're thinking. Believe me, I've been there. Take a deep breath, take a step back, and put distance between yourself and him, no more emails or contact. You need to do this for you. It's not going to be easy, it's not going to be fun, but you need to do it. We're all here for you through this.
lauri Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Yeah instantly when I saw it I was like "there is no point talking to him ever again, no matter how much respect I give him, I wont get any in return" But then I thought about it and I DO NOT want him to think that I believe him for a second. I want him to know that I think he is full of crap and did not fall for that for a second. I was considering of just replying with an "ok" or "I see what you tried to do there, you can't fool me." Do you want him to believe you don't believe him? Just stop talking to him completely. That is what I did with my ex and she kept sending me messages trying to convince me otherwise - drove her insane. Well, its her fault for playing games with me and breaking up with me. I don't deserve that...well no one deserves that. Just keep NC for yourself to avoid any unnecessary drama for yourself and let him regret losing an amazing person .
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