jarsky123 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 So I met this Japanese girl from a dating website. I lied on my profile stating that I was 32 years old but really I was 23 years old. She is 31 years old. I have already finished college and have a very stable job. I lied on my profile because from past experience women automatically write me off because (1) age (2) height. With that in mind, I had the attitude that I wanted people to get to know me before judging me based upon a number or stature. :love:She came to my state and we spent a lot of time and I came to Japan to meet her family. We have a lot in common and we genuinely enjoy being together. :lmao:I blatantly told the same lie about my age that I was 32 years old to her mother and father. Her family approved of our relationship and was OK that we were going to get married so we got engaged. 7 Month relationship. Eventually I figured that she will find out through the visa interview. The other day, I decided to tell her the truth about my age. For the past few days I have not heard anything from her. This was an extreme shift from always wanting my every attention to well basically no communication. She says she needs time to think. I don't think I will ever get into relationship after this I cannot believe that someone can break up with another person after one lie. Especially since I have invested a lot of time and money into this relationship. I plan on just buying my own house, and fast car, with my Pembroke corgi. What do you think the outcome will be from this entire situation? Will she forgive me?
deni9 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 She has every right to be upset with you, even break up with you completely. A lie is a lie. whether its a big one or small one, it is what it is. A lot of things are going through her head. She probably is wondering what else you've lied about. Not saying that you have. She trusted you with everything. She welcomed you to her family. You even lied to her parents. She also might be ashamed cause now she has to explain her parents See, this has happened to me. Ive been lied to by my current bf. He told me he slept with 2 women, in reality he was a virgin and he lost it to me. HE said he had to lie and make up stories because he thought I would never date him since he knew I was more experience and thought I wouldn't date him. Which of course that's stupid. If he would of told me I would of done it more romantic and special. but anywho, it bothered me because he lied about something so stupid!!! I would feel the same way about age, its just a stupid number. my current bf is younger than me, who cares. You assumed that your girl wouldn't talk to you cause of ur age, how would you of known that. Don't assume. you could of at least told her the truth the next week of meeting her. well if she really is into you and you guys it off great, she will forgive you and deal with it. but if she cares that much about age, why deal with her? I mean who cares? love is love! its hard to find love nowadays!
BC1980 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 People place a lot of value on trusting their partner. You told a lie, and you strung this lie out for months. She is now wondering what else you lied about.
loveiswar101 Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 "Train Wreck" is an understatement. I'm trying to learn from my insecurities and win back my girl. But I have not lied and lying to someone be big or small is not a good thing. Gotta agree with others your be very lucky to pull this one out the hat and fix. Give her the space she's asked for and see what happens.
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